To say that there are much worse fates than being alone?

[Flowersbutpain]

I have just spent christmas and the new year completely alone for the first time in 20 years.
I finally left my partner in the autumn and am now NC with my toxic family as well (Mother and siblings).
Also, I don’t have a single friend so I really am alone in the world.
But I’m ok. I’ve had much worse Christmas’s than this one and it has been much less lonely this year on my own.
So, this is a positive message for any MNetters who are contemplating leaving miserable relationships but worried about being lonely and regretting it.

Oh fuck yes. There’s nothing worse than being in a shit relationship. I hope things only get better for you from now on.

I agree. My partner died two years ago. I had spent many Christmases and NY by myself as have been single most of my adult life. Had invitations but chose to be by myself. Before I was in relationship I was happy single. Trying yo get back to my happy place.

I think the loneliness you can feel is around people who you don’t connect with.

Totally agree with this. It's much lonelier to be in a house with people you don't want to be with than to be alone.

Of course! I never understand why some people are so scared of being alone.

I think I kept hoping that things would improve and we would live the happy life we should have had. I didn’t want to miss out on the nice things that we weren’t even actually doing such as holidays, walks and days out.

It was so mentally exhausting for so long but now I feel at peace. I keep remembering things that happened with my partner and can’t believe that I put up with such crap treatment for so long.

I’d much rather be alone than lonely.