Aibu for asking my partner not to pick India as a holiday choice for us when i may get my visa rejected?

[Libertyy]

My grandparents and father are Pakistani born, I am considered by the Indian immigration as “of Pakistani origin” and my British citizenship makes little difference, just like my partner is classed as “of Indian origin” (his are also eu nationals but were born in India with OCI cards) by Pakistani immigration, therefore despite us being British citizens we can’t apply for an e visa to each other’s ethnic country of origin, it has to be a regular visa at the embasy and there’s no guarantee of it being approved. Lots of people get rejected despite being on a western passport. I know they can be strict with Pakistani families who have an army background and my grandparents fathers were in the army.

AIBU for not wanting to waste money over uncertainty of a visa application and for asking him to consider a different country instead? He wants us to try and see if it’ll be accepted which I can see his point tbh but I don’t know if the rejection will make a difference when applying to other countries. Just for context, I have no criminal record and have an ESTA approved and an eta for Canada so I know it’s nothing about me personally, I would love to go but I don’t want to get my hopes up as there are poor diplomatic relations between the two countries

My team travels regularly to India for work but we don't even bother applying for visas for people of Pakistani descent as you describe. Not worth the hassle as everyone else can do it easily online.

If you had an important reason to go like visiting family and your in laws then I would probably give it a go. Wouldn't bother just for a holiday.

Nothing to do with visas ( she has an Indian passport) but basically she has a flat she's trying to sell. We have been to the Indian High Commission several times with various documents they told us to get and they keep changing the rules. The last time we went ( either me or my brother have to take time off work to go every time) she said ' we've been here 5 times and you've told us different things' and the guy said ' Come back 1000 times'???!!! My brother and I are probably going to have to fly to India and sort it out as it is easier than dealing with them here

This basically, especially if it’s not much money and assuming despite diplomatic relations, you’ll be treated well.

I know Indian visas can be tricky - have a friend who's essentially banned after writing his PhD on India. And I certainly wouldn't book any tickets beforehand. That said, I haven't personally come across visa applications that ask about rejections from third countries - but YMMV on that. I'd be inclined to give it a shot assuming fees are reasonable.

That's got to be someone who has never seen the state of the roads in Nepal. This idea has no understanding of a) the Nepalese and Indian visa systems (two separate beasts) or b) the state of public transport/the car hire restrictions/the non-functioning roads in Nepal or on the border.