about NYE House Parties and teens

BoyMum2023 · 2023-12-31T23:23:12+00:00

My next door neighbour has allowed a group of teens ranging from 13 to 17 to drink alone unsupervised at their house next door. It is SO LOUD and has been for hours now. There is so much shouting, screaming, shout-singing and crashing/banging. My kids (who aren't interested in NYE) can't relax. I've messaged the parents of the kids (house owners) but they don't seem to think there's an issue. I have teens and I'd never leave them alone to drink. I get there's no law about it at home, but still? The parents deffo aren't home and have gone far enough away to use their car. It so loud it feels like it's in my own house. We live in a terrace.

mummagrinch · 31/12/2023 23:25

It's New Year's Eve so I would honestly just let it go. We've all been there at that age! Just one of those things, especially if neighbours are usually ok regarding noise.

Nomorecoconutboosts · 31/12/2023 23:28

I think the parents are being irresponsible. If anything goes wrong they would have to justify their unwise decision making. I suspect that parents of the other guests might not realise the party is unsupervised.
we have a party here - 6 young people including my dd who is 16.
I have sort or said no alcohol but in reality this means they will have some but they will be discreet about it (this strategy has worked for me before)
they are being noisy/exuberant but not totally crazy

Sorethroatandearache · 31/12/2023 23:28

It's NYE. You can't start complaining about party noise until at least 1am. Sorry.

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BoyMum2023 · 31/12/2023 23:30

funny thing is, the wife/mum got really weird about noise during lockdown and would complain about the slightest thing... then it turned out to be her own childs Alexa talking! They have parties every weekend during the summer/autumn with lots of adults and kids. So not really always good with noise tbh.

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BoyMum2023 · 31/12/2023 23:31

if there was any parent there, there is absolutely no way they'd just be fine with the noise level at all, for their own sanity. So this is why I don't feel like I should have to just be fine with it. Supervised party is fine. Literally just heard something smash against the adjoining wall...

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BoyMum2023 · 31/12/2023 23:32

yeah, I know. NYE is like firework night. You either love the parties and don't care about the noise or you hate it!

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IsTheOffDutyDoneYet · 31/12/2023 23:42

YANBU. The kids should be supervised and the parents mindful about the noise levels.

I’m on shift early in the morning after working all day today, and the amount of loud people is annoying. People over the road stood outside a house practically shouting at eachother. Fireworks going off constantly. I really don’t like this “oh well it’s only NYE/a birthday party/bonfire night/my toads bar mitzvah, you need to just let it go”. No, actually. This is how people get away with normal shitty behaviour in every day life as well “oh well it’s just how x is” etc. Not everyone is off tomorrow. Not everyone appreciates thumping music or loud shouting til silly hours, regardless of the occasion. People should be more mindful of others.

Tacotortoise · 31/12/2023 23:45

Well we've just got home having let a group of 17/18 years olds party unsupervised at our house since 7 this evening. It's loud but not excessively, nothing broken, no one lying in a pool of vomit. Am counting it as a win.

This is the first unsupervised party mind, and ds is pretty sensible. We weren't far away either and he had strict instructions about calling for discrete support if things looked like they were getting out of hand.

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BoyMum2023 · 01/01/2024 00:35

IsTheOffDutyDoneYet · 31/12/2023 23:42

YANBU. The kids should be supervised and the parents mindful about the noise levels.

I’m on shift early in the morning after working all day today, and the amount of loud people is annoying. People over the road stood outside a house practically shouting at eachother. Fireworks going off constantly. I really don’t like this “oh well it’s only NYE/a birthday party/bonfire night/my toads bar mitzvah, you need to just let it go”. No, actually. This is how people get away with normal shitty behaviour in every day life as well “oh well it’s just how x is” etc. Not everyone is off tomorrow. Not everyone appreciates thumping music or loud shouting til silly hours, regardless of the occasion. People should be more mindful of others.

exactly this.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/01/2024 00:40

Hopefully their house will be trashed (without any structural damage) as a punishment for leaving a load of noisy teens unsupervised 😉

Mumof2NDers · 01/01/2024 00:41

I do think at that age they should be supervised. That being said DS2(16) was at an unsupervised party earlier but he’s quite sensible and knew I was only 5 minutes away to go get him if anything kicked off. Picked him and 3 mates up. The other 3 were in a bit of a state but DS was fine (sober)
Tbf to all of them though I waited in the car for about 5 minutes for them and couldn’t hear a racket from the house.

Gulbekian · 01/01/2024 00:59

I think the ages are too young for unsupervised. We currently have 20 well-oiled teenagers in our house but DH and I are both here and sober and they are all 18 or 19. Our rules are that DD can have up to 40 invitees but (i) she must always know them all individually, (ii) we will always be here in the background (it's OUR house) and (iii) she must get consent in advance from our neighbour (a surgeon) in case he's on duty the next day. It has always worked so far ... touch wood ... and her friends seem to like coming here.

I personally love large groups of teenagers. In the right environment, they're a great mix of grown up mixed with kid.

Nomorecoconutboosts · 01/01/2024 01:32

@Gulbekian
love this and the rules.

i know everyone has different opinions but we have two sociable dds and we welcome a lot of their friends into the house quite regularly as it is their family home as well as ours.

vdbfamily · 01/01/2024 01:40

We have a large group of 19 year olds in our house. It is quite noisy still. My DH went for a drive in the car as he loves his peace and quiet. He is now asleep and I am in bed but still listening in case needed. I can hear my son telling people to stop drinking and not take drinks in lounge so sounds like he is being quite responsible.

Maddy70 · 01/01/2024 01:50

You posted before even midnight !!

HamBone · 01/01/2024 01:54

I wouldn’t leave younger teens unsupervised. 17 no problem, but not 13.

FrancisSeaton · 01/01/2024 10:16

The thing is if they were hanging round on the street getting drunk (as was my New Year's Eves from 1993-1997) people would be moaning then also
I don't know what people want from teenagers now

ManateeFair · 01/01/2024 10:22

I think New Year’s Eve is the one night of the year when you would be unreasonable to complain about noise from a party.

I think they’re nuts to have left kids as young as 13 drinking, but that isn’t really anything to do with you and it would be just as noisy if they were adults.

themusingsofaninsomniac · 01/01/2024 10:26

Your post is making a lot of assumptions.

No parents there - you said you imagine they weren't because of noise. They may be upstairs with noise cancelling headphones, or they may be at a friends close by.

Your post said age 13.. again I doubt you can be totally sure of this either. It may be that it's someone's younger sibling or
Something, but when I was younger I looked much less than my age so when I was 17/18 you'd have thought I was 13 too.

People need to relax around NYE. Agree with others who have said they will just do it elsewhere otherwise and surely that's more risk. It would be different if it was a random Tuesday, but it's not. Yet there are several posts moaning just because they were sat at home in silence.

FatFemale · 01/01/2024 10:27

Just make sure you play that music/turn the TV up in future. Let your childs boisterous mates run around the house. They have no consideration for you generally so give them a taste of their own medicine this year!

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BoyMum2023 · 06/01/2024 09:03

themusingsofaninsomniac · 01/01/2024 10:26

Your post is making a lot of assumptions.

No parents there - you said you imagine they weren't because of noise. They may be upstairs with noise cancelling headphones, or they may be at a friends close by.

Your post said age 13.. again I doubt you can be totally sure of this either. It may be that it's someone's younger sibling or
Something, but when I was younger I looked much less than my age so when I was 17/18 you'd have thought I was 13 too.

People need to relax around NYE. Agree with others who have said they will just do it elsewhere otherwise and surely that's more risk. It would be different if it was a random Tuesday, but it's not. Yet there are several posts moaning just because they were sat at home in silence.

Nah, I know the parents weren't there. I saw them both go out. When I sent the parents a message asking when the party was due to finish and could the music be turned down a bit, they said they'd text the kids. I know the youngest were 13 because one of them is in the same year as my own child.

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