Bedtime - does it have to be the same time?

[itsnotforeveryone]

My DH (and I) always go to bed at 10pm. We're not late night stop out types which suits us both. But, he sleeps more than me and he seems to need more. I always wake up earlier than him and I don't sleep great all the time. Sometimes I just want to stay up later, if I'm not tired or if I'm in the middle of something. But I always feel bad for doing it, like I'm keeping him awake.
For the record we are both semi retired and have a nice easy life so no stress to get up early.
My question is should we go to bed at the same time? Is it weird to do this or is it weird not to?
DH always expects us to, like its the proper thing to do. Occasionally, I'll be super tired and want to go and read in bed early - could be as early as 9pm. He will always come to bed with me. Winds me up a bit tbh. He never goes to bed earlier than 10pm but if I want an early night he does to?
Not sex related at all either - early nights don't mean early nights if you get my drift!
YABU - of course you should go to bed (most of the time) at the same time, it's the right thing to do.
YANBU - go to bed whenever you like on your own or together and stay up later if you want to - there's nothing wrong with it.

Theoretically individuals should go to bed when they want but on the other hand my sleep is disturbed if my oh comes to bed later.

TheTiger but are you genuinely tired at the same time as your DH ? Or is it just a habit you have got into? Do you get up at the same time too?

I do what my own body tells me to do, not my husband’s! If I’m not tired, I certainly don’t go to bed to lie next to him awake.

I would also be driven mad by this! I'm always tired before my husband is (although neither of us are early to bed compared to many). I love going up a good while before he does most nights and reading/listening to an audiobook/just scrolling on my phone or whatever..... would find it really overwhelming and intrusive if he always came up at the same time as me, and would really miss the time to myself!

Me and DH never go to bed at the same time. He's a night owl, I'm an exhausted pigeon. He'll go to bed gone midnight but I'll be in bed about 10pm.

So did I!

Husband and I had different sleep patterns, particularly as we got older. Sometimes I'd stay up after he had gone to bed and at other times would go up with him, then get up quietly and go downstairs.

I don't think it matters.