Argument with DH

[EmmaR1987]

My parents are in their early 70s and are doing round the clock care for my grandparents (late 90s).
They both have brothers and sisters to help with this and share the load.

I mentioned to my DH tonight I am a bit worried about what's going to happen when my parents get to that age because I'll be the only one responsible for what happens to them (I am an only child).

He's absolutely exploded at me and has gone off in a rage.

He said I'm ridiculous, selfish, and stupid because I have him and that's the same as having a sibling. I disagreed. They're not his parents.

He has a brother and a sister, they are a few years younger than him, but he thinks this is the same situation as me because he is the eldest.

I feel like I'm going crazy, aibu??

He hugely overreacted. I’m wondering if he took it as a dig at him - like you were implying he would be of no help to you. His reaction was terrible though no matter what was going through his head.

Ummmm, he is an angry person. If you change your behaviour or ‘keep the peace’, that means you are scared/worried about his response. Look up ‘emotional abuse’ as someone else said. It’s not healthy relationship behaviour.