At what age

[BillyNotQuiteNoMates]

Did you let your child drink alcohol? Or take it to a party?
15 yo has been invited to an overnight New Years Eve party. They will be supervised and I won’t be drinking myself, so she can ask to come home at any time. But I do know that there will alcohol at the party. My mindset tends to be, that I prefer to know what my kids are doing, than have them doing it behind my back. I also remember the days, when my kids were toddlers and thinking “my kids would never….” And “I’d never let them ….”, so I’m really only interested in the experience of parents of teenage/ adult children. If it makes any difference, my exH already allows them to drink at his house, and has done so for a while, which he has not discussed with me, and I was not aware of until last week.
So, WIBU to let my 15 yo take a small amount of alcohol to the party?
Thanks

Can you contact the hosting parent and talk to them about is being provided what you could send if anything?

If they are sensible and its being supervised then i see no issue.

If they go over the score and break your trust then they dont get to do it again

No way! My kids are 15 and 18. Mine don’t want to drink, so that’s different, it’s just no discussion. The oldest is in a nerdy friend group where it is cool not to drink. The youngest is in a group where two do drink, and the rest think that’s pathetic. But 15 is too young anyway, it would be a ‘no’.

Haven't voted as I don't think there is a 'right' answer.
Mine are now 19, 18 and 16.
I didn't buy them alcohol to take to parties at 15. But then I wasn't asked to. Eldest was not ever interested in alcohol and wasn't asked to many parties. The middle one was stuck in lockdown at 15. The youngest doesn't drink due to her sport.
I did buy the eldest 2 alcohol to take when they weren't old enough to buy it but they were more like 17.
I think it comes down to personal preference. They will be exposed to it. Other parents will supply it if you don't.
I did have lots of chats about responsible drinking, recklessness when drunk and other issues (consent of drunk girls not being consent was a big one for me as mother of boys).
But after that it was down to them.

Sorry, got called into work last minute, just after I posted. Thanks for the replies.
Nothing is being “provided” but the parents are happy for the teenagers to take “something” with them.