Was it weird of this dad to do this

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We were at a Christmas village/market today with Dd,5. She made friends with another little girl (Dd is very sociable and this happens a lot) This little girl was with her dad and uncle, my Dh was chatting to them a bit, the girls played and I went outside to use my phone and get ready to go (I’m not great at doing small talk with people I don’t know and wanted to go 😅)
The dad came out and said how well the girls were getting on, he said they didn’t live here, but come out for business every month. He asked if I could add him on Fb and gave me his phone to find me and add me so that we could arrange play dates when he was over. I was a bit taken aback, but the girls did seem to get on really well. I added myself and accepted the friend request half an hour ago, he sent me a message asking a few questions, being very friendly etc, is this weird or normal?
Dd has lots of friends and most of her friends mums are my friends, I’m not massively keen on the thought of meeting up with this guy for play dates 😬
Is this a weird situation or am I weird?

@TeaGinandFags Yes I did think if the girls did meet up, there’s no way I’d go on my own, not because I found him creepy, more I don’t want to be sat for a few hours with someone’s dad! We’d do it at the weekend with Dh and in fact, it would be better if I didn’t even go, two dads can chat together 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think it's massively weird but I wouldn't add someone on Facebook. I'd be happy to give someone my number and WhatsApp them but giving a stranger access to my social media and thus, my pictures, my life, my family, my work - I'm not keen.

I'd probably send the guy my number with a 'i'm thinking of deactivating my FB but here's my number'. Then if he messaged, I'd create a group with my DH on WhatsApp. Keep it functional for organising a possible playdate.

@TomatoSandwiches He was just saying how well the girls got on and his Dd liked ours etc. He asked if we played at a playground in the shopping centre he took her to after the Christmas place today, said they go there a lot, lots of friends do where we are with young kids. He asked what the lifestyle was like for kids where we are (we’re abroad) I mean, they’re normal questions

potentially-if a girls dad asked your girls dad- THAT could be considered "weird"-so maybe why hes opted to approach "mum". ?
you could friend suggest him your dh and suggest he gets girls mum to add you -unweird it all.?

I think this sounds lovely. I wouldn't be weirded out but I'd arrange things on the weekend with my DH.

Get your DH to add him, if he responds positively then you know it’s nothing sinister. If not, then…. 🤷‍♀️

So you live abroad. Is this guy and his DD from your home country? Since they are over so much, could he just be looking for connections? Perhaps he’s hopefully you and your DH can befriend him and his wife to socialise with when they are over?

@Josette77 Im ok to meet on a weekend with Dh, the girls can play, the dads can chat and I could shop, I’m just paranoid about the Fb, now I’m thinking why not WhatsApp, that would be better surely? Unless he doesn’t have it
I don’t have work info or specific area I live, family info etc

Seems perfectly usual to me. But I like people!

@Didimum Possibly, they’re English (we are too) he said his wife is Czech. He didn’t give too much away, didn’t say what his work was but that he was here a lot, every month on average

@CurlewKate I do too 😂I’m just less sociable with people I don’t know than Dd or Dh, this guy was v outgoing, which is why I’m asking if it’s just me being weird as I can be cautious

What do you think could happen with him on your Facebook? Are you nervous he's a criminal of sorts?

@Josette77 I have no idea, I mean, what *Could he do

His questions imply that he might be considering moving to the area or spending more time there, sounds like he could potentially be laying down some roots. Likely normal and friendly - but I would meet up with DH too.

So are you both British nationals abroad OP - I think this puts a different slant on it as I think expats tend to be more assertive when striking up friendships.

Why is it strange? This is how I'd often make new Mum friends when mine were little.

Yes, a bit less strange now you've explained you're both expats. People like to stay 'connected' with what feels familiar.

I don't think it's weird. If they only come to your town once a month his daughter probably doesn't have friends and gets a bit bored.

Are you sure it was the little girls dad and her uncle? Could they have both been her dad? So if he's a gay father, maybe he thought it would be completely fine to approach you about play dates?

@Useruser1212 Not gay as he mentioned his wife and that he was trying to get her over. Spoke to Dh and it wasn’t her uncle but his business partner 🤷🏻‍♀️