Met a man at a wedding in August. He sought me out on social media and started chatting. He was taking ages to ask me out so I initiated the first and second dates as gave the benefit of doubt that he may just be shy.
Dates went well, lots of chemistry and good chats etc. Texting and voice noting everyday.
I have two kids and have had a number of serious relationships. He has no children, lives alone and has been single for over 8 years. He says he loves his alone time and own company but is looking for something serious and to settle down.
However, I started to notice that we were falling into the routine of him only wanting to see me once every two weeks. When I brought this up, he responded that he feels like I want more than he can give. I responded that to be honest, I think he'd be hard up to find a woman in her 30s, who is wanting to find a long term partner and have more children, who would be okay with seeing her once every two weeks. He said he would only start to see someone more once it got serious and 'we have never been serious'.
I just don't get it, he texts all the time and says he would like to continue seeing me on a two weekly basis. This won't work for me and he knows that now. But what is with these type of men?
Also he wouldn't ever let me go to his home as he said he needed work done to it and was embarrassed. I've seen pics of it in background in pics he's sent me so it's not like it's messy or dirty and I also know he has not got a partner as we have mutual friends.
He said he is struggling with doing relationship type stuff when he has been alone for so long and he just likes to walk his dogs, work and enjoys his own company. Doesn't seem to see his friends much either.
This is fair enough but then why string me along for the past few months? Why approach me? Beyond frustrating.