10 year old attitude

[PostOfficeInTheCoop]

Just home from spending a few days with my sisters family, the attitude of my 10 year old nephew shocked me somewhat but I'm not sure if IABU or if it's standard 10 year old behaviour? I don't have much experience of 10 year olds such just wondering if it's normal behaviour.... When spoken to he can completely ignore you even though he has definitely heard you, will answer if someone says did you hear me? Etc. He has a mobile phone and seems to be allowed free access to it, even out for families meals he's sat on it, I would say he's borderline obsessed with it. He can't seem to cope without some kind of technology. Can't/refuses to learn how to tie his own shoelaces, gets his parents to do it everytime. Will not engage in anything that takes effort (lego, puzzles etc). Just seems generally lazy/selfish. I probably sound awful but I don't mean too, he has plenty wonderful qualities. I just wondered what everyone else's 10 year olds are like?

This.

But congratulations @PostOfficeInTheCoop on being so highly judgemental of a situation you clearly know absolutely nothing about.

I am NC with my sister because her attitude is even worse than yours.

Focus on your 4 year old and stop being such a mean cow about tour sisters son.

I have said plenty of nice things about him and I was asking a genuine question about how 10 year olds are, had some feedback that it's fairly normal so now i know. As I said I don't have much experience of 10 year olds, that's why i asked. I'm certainly not a mean cow.

Have a wonderful evening! So long as it won't involve giving more people abuse online 🙂.

what it sounds like to me is piss poor parenting
On the basis of one bad visit?!

have a careful read of the Op

and generally good parents don’t allow a few days “off” where the child can ignore people when spoken to; demand that parents tie his shoe laces, have his phone at every meal time with family staying over.

Not at 10 you don’t need to!

Neither of mine had a phone until secondary school. Both of mine loved Lego etc at that age.

It’s sad to read that a 10 year old is glued to his phone and you don’t have to bring yours up like this.

rochethenut

stayathomer

what it sounds like to me is piss poor parenting
On the basis of one bad visit?!
have a careful read of the Op

and generally good parents don’t allow a few days “off” where the child can ignore people when spoken to; demand that parents tie his shoe laces, have his phone at every meal time with family staying over.
Sorry but I still think what I said stands, you can meet a child a few times or stay with them a bit but not know what they’re like because maybe the atmosphere has been more stressed because of visitors/trying to get things ready etc. We’ve had a ton of visitors/ met up with a load of people this Christmas- some will be going home saying my kids were chatty and lovely, others saying they didn’t really interact/ were on screens too much/ rude, it’s the luck of the draw with kids. With life actually, sometimes I have great chats with people other times I’m wrecked/ stressed/ just have nothing to say!

@stayathomer

he made his parent tie his shoelaces? And his parents obliged?

He ignored people when spoken to. The parents never once addressed this.

rochethenut
The may not have noticed or maybe they pulled him up on it afterwards or were too embarrassed in the moment. Maybe HE didn’t hear or notice (which yes is awful sometimes other times reasonable). I’m not saying either were justified or in the right, I’m just saying assuming kids are awful full time on the basis of meeting a few times doesn’t really work. I’ve not like people/kids before then realised afterwards they were nice and it just happened to be the circumstances under which we met/were around each other (including a friend of ds’ I didn’t like for a whole two years then heard the true situation behind the first few times I met him)

What a horrible thread. Feigning naivety around screen time/devices so you can slag off your 10 year old nephew. I don't think there's one genuine question within this thread.

whilst i do agree that i suspect the Op isn’t the least bit concerned about her nephew but rather spent a few days with a cats bum expression whilst visiting her sister with whom she’s not close to.

What she describes does sound rude

but again - i would hazard a guess she’s exaggerating