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eklemania · 29/12/2023 15:46

My boyfriend of only 6 months broke up with me two days ago. I'm really upset about it as it came out of nowhere for me, but obviously it's what he wants to I have to respect his decision. He was very respectful about it and answered all of my questions. He said he would like to continue being friends but knows how upset I am about things.

I was an absolute mess yesterday, woke up today and didn't feel too bad to be honest but as it's getting later and later in the day and I've not heard from him (obviously) it's hitting me like a ton of bricks again.

I feel so sad and so unloveable. My son is just about to go to his dads for the weekend and I have this knot in my stomach. I don't know what I will do with myself, I kind of want to just say fuck it and have some wine but I know this will just make me feel terrible tomorrow and might make me want to text or call him. I don't want to do anything, don't want to eat, don't want to watch anything on tv, don't want to see friends or family, don't want to exercise, don't want to even stand up tbh. I am really feeling this one and I feel like I'm crawling out of my skin.

My face has completely broken up since Wednesday when this happened, really painful under the skin cysts. Everything just now is reminding me of him and just knowing I won't hear from him again is breaking my heart.

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hiddeneverythin · 29/12/2023 15:52

So sorry to hear this. You don't have to do anything - lie on the couch and watch rubbish tv and try to get an early night x

SutWytTi · 29/12/2023 15:54

I'd watch TV in bed if I was in that situation. Buy the sort of food you can face eating, watch something you know you like.

Sparklesocks · 29/12/2023 15:56

Sorry to hear it OP, being broken up with is hard and I think it’s fine to give yourself some time to wallow.

I know you said you don’t want to see anyone but is there any chance you’d be up for inviting a close friend/family member over for a few hours? You could share a bit of wine and a takeaway (just something small if you aren’t very hungry), have a vent and a hug and you won’t be as tempted to drunk text if you’re with someone else. Sometimes the best balm is being with people we care about.

Restlessinthenorth · 29/12/2023 15:57

I'm sorry OP. Sounds like you are being really sensible about this tho, and that's the quickest, most pain free way forwards!

Can you get a shower and wash your hair? Fresh pjs. Tin of soup to eat? Quick but comforting. Get on sofa. Try not to fall asleep too early or you will be up in the night which is no good. Bed at a reasonable time and then see how you feel first thing. A browse round shops? Quick walk? Just keep going through half day blocks, don't think too far ahead!

eklemania · 29/12/2023 17:11

Luckily my son is now staying here till tomorrow morning now so will watch a film with him and try keep my mind off it. Thanks everyone.

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