Is this too much nursery?

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4 days a week at 18 months? She’s my first and ex DP has no interest in talking about these things. I worry I’m making the wrong choice and should cut my hours instead to be with her. Don’t know what to do.

What hours will she do?

Also don’t feel bad cause it’s hard enough to work this stuff out when you have a good partner so you’re doing a great job!!!

Of course not. Plenty go full time.

Mine does and he's younger.

@Ihaterhymingrabbit thursday to Friday 8:30 to 5

*Tuesday to Friday

It's a personal decision. Some parents need to work for financial reasons. Some need to work for their own happiness. Some have family support. Some are all on their own.

Many children are in full time childcare and are fine. Many don't go at all until preschool/school and are also fine.

You will get opposing opinions but nobody else knows what it best for you and your child. I'm not saying that to be difficult, I just think that you will likely remember the opinions that dont match with what you end up doing and always question it, when really whatever you decide, will be fine!

I wouldn’t want mine in that much if I could afford not to. Dd1 did two days until age 3 then three days. Dd 2 had just turned three and only just started going one day a week and upping to two in Jan.

Hi OP! I'm a single parent and my son has give to nursery 5 days a week, full time, since he was 1. (He's now 3.5) He's very happy and doing well. He enjoys seeing his friends and it's a really good environment for him, and I think it's really helping him prepare for school, too. Do what you need to do to take care of your little family, and don't get too bogged down in worrying about what you 'should' be doing, or what other people do, so long as it's working for you.

DD was in nursery full time from 9months because we both needed to work full time. She is now 9yo and a very well adjusted, happy child who has fond memories of her key worker and the kids she was friends with at nursery.

My first child went 4 days a week to nursery and 8-5 hours due to my job from 9 months old. I hated it but I cut my hours from 5 days to 4 which seemed like a win.

Second child managed to get 3 days a week (super lucky and unheard of at my workplace) from 11 months old which I loved and mentally better for me.

However both my kids can’t remember if they did 3 or 4 days, however I remember. I don’t think it massively affects the kids, they have fond memories of playing, making mess, making friends (some which we still meet now even though they are at different schools).

I think it’s more how you feel a parent, as it’s horrible guilt you have leaving them. Once there was an accident on the roads as I couldn’t get to my eldest till 6:30pm, I sobbed! However I forgot he can’t tell the time and was happily playing with toys completely unaware I was late.