Blended Family Xmas question

[Merryoldgoat]

Very quick question please.

I have some family coming today - both sisters and their partners.

One sister has a son (my nephew)

Other sister’s partner is bringing his 9yo daughter. I’ve not met that partner (relatively new) or his daughter who is 9.

I’ve bought her a token gift of about £20 because I want her to feel welcome but my nephew has money (£50) - do you think that’s ok? I bought things I know she’ll like but I’m worried I seem stingy now.

Sorry - I can also put £20 in a card as an addition if that’s better?

No, just give her the gift. It's really nice of you to consider her! You seem the opposite of stingy.

@Ablondiebutagoody

ok thanks - that’s reassuring. Never been in this position before as an adult host!

That’s very generous of you, I doubt they are expecting anything if you have never met. I definitely wouldn’t give anymore than that.
How old is your nephew? Could you just give him the money away from the other child and just not make a thing of gifts if it’s an issue for you? Or are you doing gifts for the adults too?

£20 gift for a child you've never met seems very generous to me. I think the amount you've given your nephew is irrelevant.

The present is fine.

That and being nice and interested in her will do it.

I think it’s a lovely thing to do and very generous 🥰.

Thank you everyone.

I just couldn’t imagine a 9yo turning up to a strange house, probably already a bit anxious about a family she’s never met and then have no presents where everyone else has them.

Only just now I wondered if it would be stingy as nephew has more and my kids will have all their gear around them but I’m clearly overthinking!

I’m looking forward to meeting her - she likes crafts and I love crafts and my kids and nephew have zero interest - I’m hoping we can do some macrame together later 🤣