Regifted gift card?

[Backsommie]

Recently I have been worried about my parents as they are getting older. (Both in their mid 70s). They don’t do much anymore and it’s like they have given up a bit.
This year they didn’t really bother with Christmas. They didn’t put their tree up for the first time ever as it was “too much effort”. My husband and I got a tub of celebrations for Christmas. Husband also got a £30 voucher for screwfix. I got a £20 book token and a £10 note in an envelope. When I looked at the book token later it had been given to my dad by his next door neighbour who he does a few odd jobs for and he had stuck a label over it and put my name on instead.
I make the effort with my presents back to them and we had them over at our house for Christmas dinner etc. I was upset that I got a re gifted book token and it was quite obvious with the label over it.
AIBU?

Given your concerns about your parents I wouldn’t be worrying about a re-gifted token. Perhaps talk to them, and see what help they may need as they are getting older.

Recently I have been worried about my parents as they are getting older. (Both in their mid 70s). They don’t do much anymore and it’s like they have given up a bit.

So are you worried about them? Or upset about the lack of effort? Or both? Just trying to get to what's bugging you here.

Oh bloody hell, leave them alone. I think they maybe just need support. Christmas gifts are so unimportant!

They have probably just had enough of it. My dad didn’t bother putting his tree up this year. He also doesn’t do gifts anymore.
He obviously wasn’t going to use the giftcard and thought you would like it. Do you? Is it an issue?

Maybe they're not coping generally. I'd address that, rather than taking offence at the regifted book token.

Which is the stronger feeling for you - worry that they appear to be struggling to manage physical tasks like putting a tree up or shopping or resentment that you bought them more expensive/thoughtful gifts and dinner and you got a regifted book token?

Wow. Mid-70's and you are expecting them to make a bigger effort for you? If anything just tell them it's not necessary to give you any gifts. My parents stopped buying me gifts when I started working, you presumably have your own money right? My husband's mum always (early 60's) makes an effort and use to gift us on bdays and anniversary. She has stopped now, couldn't be more pleased as she probably needs the money more than us. I think they've done their job with you and you should not expect gifts.

It sounds like there are bigger issues here than a regifted book token.

I think your parents may be struggling more than you've realised, and may need some support. Good luck xx

I'll use the book token if you don't want it 😂 i don't generally bother with decorations either as its a lot when it's just me

Wouldn't bother me. My dad wouldn't use a book token so would be happy with the re gift