Am I nasty? Me and Dh share one child who is 7 and a healthy weight to height ratio. I have also confirmed this on the nhs bmi calculator for kids.
child has a healthy appetite and enjoys food. Has three meals a day plus a couple small snacks, doesn’t have fizzy drinks or sugary sweets , doesn’t like things most kids do like ice cream , cakes and what not but over all has a varied and balanced diet.
for months and months and months dh has made comments about child’s portions of food intake in a negative way. Saying it’s too much, on Christmas Day he even commented on the fact child was having ketchup with his lamb.. child hears these comments most of the time and frankly I have had enough.
I have eating issues and am under the local clinic team for help with it. My issue is binge eating. Im very conscious of my own issues and have made sure none of that is passed down to my son and feel very strongly about people making comments on other peoples bodies and weight because comments like this plant like seeds but more so my child is perfect weight for his height and has no problems T all.
DH is over weight maybe by two stone. Has a noticeable large belly not that anyone including me says anything. He has two teenage children from his first marriage. One is chubby but one is clearly over weight and had piled on a lot in about a year. She’s also short which doesn’t help. Now for this child who’s 17 he sends burgers and chips home to her from work, he buys chocolates and when out for something to eat never ever warns her about portions or choosing healthier options. I have never said a thing about her weight to her I never would but I have snapped and said to him that maybe he needs to direct this advice and concern to his child who does have a weight problem because the child we share doesn’t. I told him instead of sending her burgers and chips he could send her healthier options such as a salad . Bitchy? Maybe but after months and months of comments about our normal weight young son he would never dream to say this to his very overweight daughter
hes told me in nasty and I always drag his kids into arguments I don’t and this isn’t a argument I’m simply asking him to stop making negative comments when they aren’t wanted needed and justified and it’s so hypocritical when he has a very overweight daughter who might benefit from this input
I’ve now been ignored for two days and basically been called out as a nasty person who’s nasty to his kids ( I have never been )
the reason I referenced his daughter is only because he said as a father it’s his right to have his say but as a father shouldn’t that apply to the child who needs it ? The whole thing is so bizarre but I won’t back down .. my child is a normal size to his height and has a good varied diet .
was it nasty to point out the blatant facts ?