To think they should have sent the email?

28 replies

888hhh · 28/12/2023 15:59

I'm working with someone on a project together. We need to email a client as soon as possible. I've drafted an email and questionnaire for the client, which my partner has reviewed and agreed on (I emphasised that they could add or alter anything they wanted to, but they were dilly dallying a bit with drafting something so I ended up drafting it all).

I asked that if once they're happy with the email and questionnaire if they could email it to the client today, as I'm on annual leave. I said if they couldn't get round to it then I'll email it tomorrow once I'm back. I've just checked my work Teams messages and they've replied to my message saying that tomorrow is fine for me to send it, without making any attempt or effort to send the email themselves today. AIBU to think they should have just sent it?

OP posts:

quietlyplease · 28/12/2023 17:25

888hhh · 28/12/2023 17:21

I think I only added that I would send it if not because I didn't want to come across as bossy/controlling. We're both equals at work, and I've never worked with them on a project before and didn't want to come across like I was taking the lead/micromanaging and telling them what to do.

You're the natural leader though

Muchof · 28/12/2023 17:38

HelpMeGetThrough · 28/12/2023 16:34

The first few replies have baffled me, the OP was clear.

I wouldn't have given the option of if they didn't get round to it. I would have instructed that they make sure it's sent as a priority and to ensure the email is sent by X time, copying me in, BCC if you don't want to show on the trail.

She wasn’t that clear. She said something about them “not getting round to it”, that hardly suggests it was something that must go today. I would have been much much clearer and not given the opt out.

Lifeasiknowitisout · 28/12/2023 18:05

888hhh · 28/12/2023 17:21

Asking them to send something once they have finished with it as the deadline is that day, is not bossy or controlling.

What you did was make the deadline vague. You made it ‘today or tomorrow is fine’ where as you were actually thinking ‘this must go today’

It’s a common mistake that people trying their best to appear nice make. And it’s one that women usually make.

‘As you know this must go today and I am on annual leave, so send it to the client once you have checked it

thank

xyz’

By adding ‘or I can do it’ you muddied the waters. You gave them 2 options when you only was the right thing. There wasn’t 3 options before you added that bit.

This person maybe a bit shit or lazy. But that’s why you should have been absolutely clear.

If the boss asks why it didn’t go that person will say ‘well 888hhh said it go that day if I had time. Or she would send it the next if I didn’t have time. I didn’t have time. I didn’t know it had to be that day as she told me it could go the next’

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