parents appear to be giving me the silent treatment?

[satursaysunday]

i have 2 kids, for the first time this year we decided to spend christmas lunchtime on our own as a family of 4 - my parents weren’t not invited but they already had plans elsewhere. invited parents round to watch kids open their gifts in the morning, made breakfast, etc. told them feel free to come round after lunch and we can watch a christmas movie together etc. they left about 11 and i’ve barely heard from them since. i reached out and asked if they wanted to come over and see the kids and have chocs etc with us in the evening - no. i asked if they wanted to do anything boxing day - no response. sent pictures of the kids through and only got a smiley face in response which is typical passive aggressive from my mum. don’t know what i’ve done wrong but im clearly getting some kind of silent treatment and all i can think is that it’s because i chose to not go to a big family lunch. everyone else seems to have parents who actually want to see their grandkids and i just feel so let down.

People are being deliberately obtuse on this thread .

Of course it's odd , going from messaging you everyday to not responding.

I would focus on how this is making you feel ( I get a sense you seem to have lost your bearings on where you stand in the relationship and this is unnerving you ). I would guess that this is not a one off but a pattern of behaviour you've endured over the years in one form or the other .

I bet you're just so glad/relieved when she/they resume communication that you don't pull them up on it because you can't face being on the receiving end again.

I would challenge yourself to ride this out ... no begging for communication on your part ... ride out your discomfort and really look back on this and learn from it , that is the messages that you might have been brought up with ... possibly put up and shut up otherwise we will ostracise you !!!

Silent treatment is a form of abuse. Regardless of the situation at Christmas, her parents should be outlining the issue clearly.

YABU.

Your parents had already accepted an invitation to (presumably) a close relative of yours, assuming you would be there.
You decided not to go - absolutely fine, I understand that.
Your parents then change their plans to make sure they see you and the dgc on Christmas day.
All sounds fine.
No-one normal would then expect them to leave the Christmas day event they were at to pop back to yours. If you want them to spend the day with you, then talk about it in October next year and invite them properly.

If you want to spend time with them on Boxing Day, or 27th then actually invite them to something. "Mum, as we aren't spending Christmas together, we would like to invite you to ours on 27th" . There, it isn't difficult.

Not sure how replying with a smiley face is passive aggressive, nor how not seeing you in 3 days is giving you the silent treatment.