Christmas day upset and boredom

[Lucky2shoes]

I'm feeling so down about another Christmas day let down. Just a family of 3 I wanted a bigger family but it didn't happen.
Had Christmas day with my ex and 23 year old son it was also my sons birthday same day and whilst I love him loads he can be difficult and disinterested in Christmas and his birthday as a whole.
We used to have so much more activity when my parents where alive with all extended family getting together Christmas day but last 2 years everybody has done thier own thing with my sister who has a large family plastering her photos all over the WhatsApp group of a big crowd getting together.
I know this is my issue but I feel so sad.

Maybe look at fostering if you want a big family/ lots of people. Very rewarding as well

I don’t enjoy Christmas.
Stay off social media.
Go away for a few days if possible.
Catch up on favourite tv or books.
Do some online sales shopping.
Eat some nice food.
A good long walk( its lovely here today)
I hate new years too, I always go for a good walk New Year’s Day no matter the weather.

sorry you didn't enjoy Christmas. But if you want things to change, even slightly, you have to be the agent for change and advocate for yourself.

You don't have to be with your son - he's an adult. Maybe he spends Christmas with you out of misplaced guilt or the desire for presents? Have you asked him?

How about initiating more contact with your sister and wider family over the year? if you don't have much contact they have little idea about how miserable you are finding things, they may think you're perfectly happy the way things are.

Christmas does bring these things into sharp relief, but people aren't mind readers and they are, naturally, caught up with their closer family activities.

Give it a try?

Its not that simple fostering is more than just creating the family you wanted unfortunately.
In any case my set up in everyday isn't suitable

Absolutely.

I did a double take at try fostering

Go away next year with your new partner. Hardly matters about religion, unless you go to church. Ask your son if he wants to come along nearer the time. Alternatively volunteer with a local charity. You need to make things happen. At the end of the day though I suspect that it's not just Christmas you are dissatisfied with.

What about suggesting a meal out on Christmas Day then next year and if they don’t fancy a meal out they might invite you to theirs?

If you want things to change next year, you will have to change them.

You don't have to spend the day with your ex and your son. Your son doesn't sound interested - maybe he'd rather be somewhere else. You could arrange a birthday meal out with him on another day.

You could ask your sister. If things have changed since your parents died maybe it's just because she's assuming that you have your own plans for Christmas now. If you'd like to go to hers, ask if it would be possible. Suggest you bring/make some food/help her in some other way.

You don't actually have to have a traditional Christmas Day with a get-together, meal, gifts, whatever. You can do whatever you like.
As you say your partner doesn't celebrate Christmas is there something you could do with him instead. You have time off work and perhaps he does too so you could do something else with him - such as going away for a few days, having a quiet day at home, celebrate the New Year instead with a meal or whatever.

@iljafjpr has hit the nail on the head.
Don't dwell on things make next year better.
It's on you...

Agree.
Christmas is what you make it.

Not sure what to say as the driving force on arrangements are my sisters family but I don't really see anybody to know what's going on

Do a different Christmas with your partner. A day of celebration and indulgence (doesn't have to be religious)