I know it's not all men and it can be women too, there are some men who save you a job by making it blatant but other times it can be harder to spot.
There's a soon to be ex colleague who I am interested in and it (hopefully) seems to be mutual. I have quite low self esteem which doesn't help and I feel daft asking this in my 30s but how can I ensure he's interested in me for me and not primarily one thing?
I know there's no idiot-proof solution as such but I just have my guard up.. I think the number of dates is irrelevant, I could wait until date 5 or 10 and they could still do it. I could say that I'm not comfortable until we're in a committed relationship? That said I don't want to force/rush things.
If he does turn out to not be serious then it'll hurt but I will pick myself up and move on. I'd appreciate any advice about how to be more savvy.