I have boys myself and remember when they were little it was hard work. My eldest is autistic he manages much better in social situations than when he was younger but I am acutely aware that sometimes it can get too much so take it as it goes.
We went to my mums on boxing day. Nephew is 2 and to say he is wild is an understatement. Constant screaming, kicking, throwing, punching and destroying things. Within 30 minutes my youngest was upset as he was told to let cousin use his new toy and then it was chucked and broken. I said next time don't give anything to him and I was eye rolled and said get a grip,he's 2, he didn't mean it.
Then he screamed continuously because I said no to him having my eldest's mobile.
My eldest looked really uncomfortable and I made our excuses and went. In the car my sons said they felt frazzled and stressed and didn't want to go round when nephew was there. Me and my husband felt the same. We've been moaned at since for giving into our children needs and forgetting what life was like with a toddler.
I am not saying my children were perfect because they definitely were not but I did correct bad behaviour or removed ourselves from situations particularly when eldest didn't cope. Nephew however is allowed to do whatever he wants. The excuse of he's only 2 is not ok. I was very close to my sister but her style of parenting and the constant he's only 2 give him what he wants is not something I want to be around.
Would it be unreasonable to keep a distance from my sister and nephew for the time being? I don't want a massive drama fall out and maybe I should have more patience but also think my sister should jot allow nephew to kick, ohnch, scream and continually break things. I won't ever host round mine due to nephew throwing and breaking everything.