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being excluded from making plans in a brought together family

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hoppus182 · 27/12/2023 20:10

Anyone else in here struggling with how their partner deals with their "special" but grown kids? I love my stepson and we go really well together, but every goddamn holiday it's the same. He comes, and he goes like "Tadaaa, my mom is away for a week now so I am staying here, but I told you that, right?"
That happened moments after I got back home with my newborn, while my partner was crippled after a surgery - this was the first time it really bothered me, and since then it has happened basically every holiday. I am so frustrated!!! I have talked to my partner about this several times, that he needs to involve me in their holiday arrangements. But he keeps "forgetting", "not listening", "not reading his ex' texts thoroughly enough" etc etc. This has been going on for years. I am so through with it, I think I just need to get my butt up and move out of our shared home with our toddler. But first, any advice out there??

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Aquamarine1029 · 27/12/2023 20:19

Your partner doesn't respect you, so I'm not sure anything we can say will help. I have a feeling this isn't the only issue in your relationship.

TheSnowyOwl · 27/12/2023 20:31

Is your stepson grown or he is a child? And what do you mean by special?

Lighrbulbmo · 27/12/2023 20:35

How old is step child. Your dh can take care of him? what is crippled.. surgery.. are you his carer atm?

KnowledgeableMomma · 27/12/2023 20:58

I think we definitely need more context here. As others have said, how old and what does 'special' mean? Does he live with mom? Does mom go away somewhere for each holiday? If so, it can't be a surprise then when stepson needs someplace to be?

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