To think this isn't normal behaviour?

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ExDP disagrees with me.

DS is 5, a bright and well behaved child.

He enjoys being hit/hurt. He will BEG people to hit him.

His best friend at school can be quite violent in general, but DS lets him punch him because he "likes it". He will ask for his friend to hit him harder, I've seen him hit DS really hard and he just laughs. I always intervene when I see it happening.

If he's playing a rough and tumble game it's always "hit me" "hit me in the face" "hit me harder!".

What the hell? Ex finds it funny and I find it worrying.

That isn't normal behavior. How long has he been doing that? What started it off? The fact that you ex sees nothing wrong in it is disturbing - does he/has he let your little boy watch anything violent?

Hi

I work in childcare
I totally agree with you. This is not normal behaviour.
Hope you can get to the bottom of the issue

That's really not normal

If it’s just playful and light then it may not be too serious. This sounds quite intense.

However, if it continues, especially into puberty then it could get mixed up with his psycho- sexuality which would not be a good thing.

Not sure how to handle this but may be worth trying to curtail this now.

What is your ex like?

Pain is a defence mechanism.

It doesn't sound good that he's actively seeking it out.

Is someone encouraging it? Has he heard any 'be a man' shit or anything like that from someone?

Has someone been violent towards him. Does he now view it as positive attention?

Definitely not normal. Before jumping to worrying thoughts of psychological/emotional problems, though - does DS feel pain as much as other people do?

Some people are born with impaired pain sensitivity (it's genetic). While it's a gift in many obvious ways, it also means injuries can go untreated. People with complete or significant pain insensitivity need training to check themselves for cuts, burns, broken bones, etc.

If you think it's the case with DS, take him to your GP, who will no doubt be fascinated. Otherwise - it's going to be matter of getting to the bottom of what he likes about being hit, and whether he likes being assaulted by anyone or only certain people. Good luck!

Does he have some sensory issues, either doesn't feel touch like most people, or is sensory seeking?

My DD didn't feel itchy at all when she had chicken pox, but rejects most socks as she can't stand how they feel.

My DS is sensory seeking and will rub and smell things, moves constantly. Both have sensory processing disorder.