Unappreciated gifts?

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Hi all,

Long time lurker but first post but interested to hear thoughts on this one.

My DS is 3 and I’m not in a relationship with his DM. It was a very short relationship that ended before DS was born. His DM and myself are civil and have an established routine for access and child maintenance etc.

For context, his DM also has another son who’s father plays no role in his life (no access or maintenance).

I thought it would be the right thing to get a card and gift for DS’s DM and DB for Christmas. Gifts were what his DM asked for both of them. They also got me a lovely gift.

I messaged to thank them for my gift but got absolutely no thanks in return for theirs.

AIBU to think that’s a tad disrespectful/ungrateful?

Well, she might be busy and probably will reply soon with a thank you! It is not always possible to reply quickly when you are managing two small children.

Sorry I should’ve added that we did exchange a few messages hours ago on the back of my thanks message!

Honestly don't make something of close to nothing, people have very different standards of manners esp around 'thanks' type stuff, it really doesn't mean much

A thank you would be polite but of you're generally cordial, I wouldn't take it to heart. She probably thinks she thanked you when you handed them over etc. you did a nice thing, don't create issues that don't really matter.