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Internal CCTV cameras? Find them intrusive?

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Alana1983 · 26/12/2023 19:59

Been out today just for an hour and whilst out my partner has put internal cameras up in the house. We are going away soon for a short break and our older teenager will be in the house alone, so I am jumping to the conclusion that this is is the reason why. Only the second time said teenager was alone. Last time there were no issues, we could see comings and going on the ring cameras but nothing untoward occurred. This a longer 'break' though

i don't want internal cameras up. They are up in the living room and landing so not bedrooms obvs.

They just feel super intrusive to me. We already have ring cameras on the front door and back garden?

thoughts?

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cakeorwine · 26/12/2023 20:02

I have an internal camera that I activate when I am out. When DS is at home and I am out, it's quite amusing to see when he actually gets up. It just covers part of the flat and is motion activated. I could have it live but he is generally between his room and the kitchen so he hardly shows.

Hoglet70 · 26/12/2023 20:06

We have one in the living room for the dog. I think DS unplugs it when we go away and leave him. It doesn't bother me as it's only on my phone anyway and nobody else can look at it.

PiggieWig · 26/12/2023 20:07

A conversation is needed here

Flamingogirl08 · 26/12/2023 20:07

It's weird and I'd never do it

Dotjones · 26/12/2023 20:08

It's perfectly normal to have internal CCTV cameras like this, it's not intrusive provided you trust the those with access.

Wishimaywishimight · 26/12/2023 20:08

Why are you jumping to conclusions rather than just talking to him about it? Wouldn't something like this usually be a joint decision?

crumpet · 26/12/2023 20:09

It depends where it is and how intrusive. I wouldn’t want them mind you

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 26/12/2023 20:10

It’s as rude as sin to put up internal cameras without a discussion with your partner to make sure they agree with them in their home.

festivepains · 26/12/2023 20:11

I think it's awful. Lose the baby cam!

OrigamiOwls · 26/12/2023 20:11

I would find this intrusive. I was also not be impressed that my partner had decided to do this in our joint house without any discussion or input from me.

oneflewoverthe · 26/12/2023 20:11

Yeah it's unnecessary and controlling.

festivepains · 26/12/2023 20:12

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 26/12/2023 20:10

It’s as rude as sin to put up internal cameras without a discussion with your partner to make sure they agree with them in their home.

And I would say the teen as well.

If you don't trust them then don't leave them home alone

festivepains · 26/12/2023 20:12

cakeorwine · 26/12/2023 20:02

I have an internal camera that I activate when I am out. When DS is at home and I am out, it's quite amusing to see when he actually gets up. It just covers part of the flat and is motion activated. I could have it live but he is generally between his room and the kitchen so he hardly shows.

Could you not just ask him to text you when he's up?

Original poster
Alana1983 · 26/12/2023 20:13

I have talked to him about it before. I don't like the idea. It's not about not trusting him it's just strange to me. If a burglar gets in surely you'd see them from the outside.

we had a cat sitter in the past and she was offended that he'd put up temporary ones facing the door. Almost like she felt like there was a suggestion that she wouldn't feed the cat but that was before ring cameras were so popular and now we have one. So I just don't think I see the need.

aslo teenager is now in a relationship and we know that partner will be here in our abscence although theres no suggestion that anything untoward would be captured as they have their own bathroom
etc not covered by the camera so
it's not about that. It's more about me. I often walk around not fully clothed and I just think it's completely unnecessary

partner knows how I feel about it.

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Crazyhousewife23 · 26/12/2023 20:14

Is teen dh child? I would definitely let teen know they are there. What if they were to walk around the house half naked? How would you feel if they were put up and you were in the house whilst dh was away and he didn’t let you know. Very uncomfortable and also controlling

HappyHamsters · 26/12/2023 20:14

Has dp told.son they are up. What's the reason for them. Can you all access the footage.

VisionsOfSplendour · 26/12/2023 20:15

Dotjones · 26/12/2023 20:08

It's perfectly normal to have internal CCTV cameras like this, it's not intrusive provided you trust the those with access.

This thread comes up a lot and there's always a divide between those who think it's normal and usually the majority who think its creepy and weird

As it's personal preference there's no right or wrong but ime it's a long way from normal.

flowerchild2000 · 26/12/2023 20:16

I find it weird and intrusive that he didn't talk to you about it first. I could never live in a house with cameras. I even find the ring creepy. I used to have an outdoor camera when I had a neighbor harassing me, but it felt awful and ultimately I moved so I didn't have to live in that level of surveillance.

Crooklodge · 26/12/2023 20:18

Dd 13 for one for Xmas so she can see what her gecko gets up to during the night, it's been in my living room since she opened it. Creepy wee shite, it's definitely going upstairs tomorrow but the wee ones have found it hilarious.

I chat shite to myself all the damn time, the rest of the family don't need to know that.

My dh would be out on the garden bench with his camera for comfort of he didn't ok it with me first, NEVER happening.

jc12689 · 26/12/2023 20:20

festivepains · 26/12/2023 20:12

Could you not just ask him to text you when he's up?

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Why do they need to know at all? Feels a bit ridiculous to text someone to let them know you're out of bed. What about bowel movements?

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 26/12/2023 20:23

Dotjones · 26/12/2023 20:08

It's perfectly normal to have internal CCTV cameras like this, it's not intrusive provided you trust the those with access.

It’s completely intrusive to put cameras up against the wishes of your partner.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 26/12/2023 20:24

I have talked to him about it before. I don't like the idea.

@Alana1983 I’d be taking them down.

Where are the images being recorded? How do you access them? How secure is it?

I’d be beyond livid if DH put up cameras against my wishes.

festivepains · 26/12/2023 22:15

jc12689 · 26/12/2023 20:20

Why do they need to know at all? Feels a bit ridiculous to text someone to let them know you're out of bed. What about bowel movements?

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I agree but clearly that poster wants to be amused by playing guess what time my child is awake so I was thinking of slightly more ethical ways of playing the same game

Grimbelina · 26/12/2023 22:19

You could also be on very dangerous ground legally if the DS's girlfriend walks around naked etc. and didn't know (or claims she didn't know) that cameras were on.

WillowCraft · 26/12/2023 22:24

The only way I'd put up with this is if the footage was stored offline and only viewed if there was a break in. If someone who isn't at the house can view people who are legitimately in the house that is really creepy. But I don't see the need unless there's a really high crime risk. Wanting to monitor your teenager is not a reason.