To think if you have a hangover, stay at home

baubl · 2023-12-26T15:40:38+00:00

We regularly host family for Christmas Day (never seem to get invited elsewhere!) Without fail, one of them turns up with the hangover from hell, and sits in the corner of my lounge huffing and puffing, looking like death and not participating in the festivities at all. If I knew I was spending the day with family, I wouldn't go out on an all day drinkathon the day before. These are middle aged relatives I'm talking about, not teenagers. Quite honestly I wish they'd just stay at home in bed!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/12/2023 15:47

yes yanbu, if you drink enough to be hungover, own it and put a brave face on, don’t ruin everyone else’s day.

Echobelly · 26/12/2023 15:53

It depends... I don't get hangovers often but I find getting out of the house seems to help get over them faster, but then I never have the sort of doozy that would make me uncommunicative with others.

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baubl · 26/12/2023 16:20

Echobelly · 26/12/2023 15:53

It depends... I don't get hangovers often but I find getting out of the house seems to help get over them faster, but then I never have the sort of doozy that would make me uncommunicative with others.

Oh these aren't just "feeling a bit off" hangovers. Full on, head in hands, can't speak or eat/drink hangovers.

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Gnomegnomegnome · 26/12/2023 16:21

They probably wouldn’t be hungover if they were hosting/cooking

SunRainStorm · 26/12/2023 18:15

Incredibly rude and stupid behaviour.

This would really annoy me.

Do they have a drinking problem?

Whaleandsnail6 · 26/12/2023 18:25

I agree its really rude to get so drunk the night before an event if you are the kind of person who suffers bad enough hangovers that will impact on the next day.

I'd be pretty annoyed if someone cancelled plans due to being hungover though so they cant really win with me!

TheaBrandt · 26/12/2023 18:28

Rude and super annoying. If you are hosting /buying /cooking and putting in the grunt work the bare minimum obligation for a guest is to turn up and behave in a pleasantly social manner.

wearedonnnne · 26/12/2023 19:06

SunRainStorm · 26/12/2023 18:15

Incredibly rude and stupid behaviour.

This would really annoy me.

Do they have a drinking problem?

A drink problem because they are hungover from Christmas?

8misskitty8 · 26/12/2023 19:09

Don’t invite them next year, or indeed anyone.
Have Christmas just your household.

laclochette · 26/12/2023 19:09

It's rude! Ideally they wouldn't get so sloshed in the first place. We have a social obligation to others to be entertaining and interesting when we socialise. Being boring is a social crime and these people are being extremely boring.

LumiB · 26/12/2023 19:13

Thats really rude. I cant stand that behavior. My friends husband left her 4 months ago, I've been there for her but when we hang out she is just in a bad mood having a bad day and its like literally zero chat. Like why turn up and hang out with me if you're in a bad mood, cos your lonely rhatsbwhy and your using me. Really pissed me off so I told her I don't want to hang with her on my birthday anymore I dont want to be around someone who is gonna be in a bad mood.
Either turn up and fake it til you make it or don't come but someone she expects me to just put up with it.. erm no.

Don't worry OP you are not alone in thinking its awful behaviour

VeryGoodVeryNice · 26/12/2023 19:19

Luckily I had nowhere to be today so I’ve been nursing my hangover in bed. I’d say you’re right, bed is the best place for them. I think people need to cut them a bit of slack though, it’s easy to get carried away with the drinking on Christmas Day (I’m barely living proof of this). Also it’s hard to know with hangovers, you get the ones where you feel a bit rough but once you get going you’re alright, and then there’s the progressive type that makes you feel worse and worse as the day wears on. Maybe your relatives were hoping they had the first kind. This is why I just never make plans for Boxing Day 🤣.

RaininSummer · 26/12/2023 19:19

It is a bit of a drink problem if you get so wasted that you ruin a planned event the next day and rude. it's not big and it's not clever.

TreasurePieLand · 26/12/2023 19:22

LumiB · 26/12/2023 19:13

Thats really rude. I cant stand that behavior. My friends husband left her 4 months ago, I've been there for her but when we hang out she is just in a bad mood having a bad day and its like literally zero chat. Like why turn up and hang out with me if you're in a bad mood, cos your lonely rhatsbwhy and your using me. Really pissed me off so I told her I don't want to hang with her on my birthday anymore I dont want to be around someone who is gonna be in a bad mood.
Either turn up and fake it til you make it or don't come but someone she expects me to just put up with it.. erm no.

Don't worry OP you are not alone in thinking its awful behaviour

Is this genuine? When my husband left me, I struggled to be happy four months in. I wasn’t ‘using’ people, and I really valued the friends I didn’t have to pretend with. It was exhausting to fake happiness.

Sorry, OP, that doesn’t answer your post. I’d be really annoyed to have super hungover people around.

SchoolQuestionnaire · 26/12/2023 19:26

Yanbu.

I unintentionally overdid it yesterday and woke up feeling dreadful. I’d have loved a lie in but I was hosting so I was up at 7am, paracetamol and a pot of strong coffee and was feeling pretty much ok by the time my guests arrived at 11am. I like a drink and as I get older hangovers are becoming more challenging but it’s self inflicted so I would never let that affect my behaviour with my family or in company.

VeryGoodVeryNice · 26/12/2023 19:30

Oops, read the post wrong 😑. I see it was Christmas Day they were hungover. But the same applies really, it’s easy to have a few too many on Christmas Eve. I spent Christmas with my friend and our kids and we were both brutally hungover from going to the pub the night before. We just drank more and powered through, and had a lovely day…although she left at about 8.30pm and I went straight to bed.

I don’t normally drink a lot btw, but Christmas is a bit different.

ItsMyPartyParty · 26/12/2023 19:30

Well, yes, it’s shitty behaviour, but who is calling them out on this behaviour? Have you addressed it? Why do you keep inviting them? You can’t control their behaviour, but are you in fact enabling it?

Fancycheese · 26/12/2023 19:37

LumiB · 26/12/2023 19:13

Thats really rude. I cant stand that behavior. My friends husband left her 4 months ago, I've been there for her but when we hang out she is just in a bad mood having a bad day and its like literally zero chat. Like why turn up and hang out with me if you're in a bad mood, cos your lonely rhatsbwhy and your using me. Really pissed me off so I told her I don't want to hang with her on my birthday anymore I dont want to be around someone who is gonna be in a bad mood.
Either turn up and fake it til you make it or don't come but someone she expects me to just put up with it.. erm no.

Don't worry OP you are not alone in thinking its awful behaviour

Jesus. Who needs enemies with “friends” like you! 4 months in no time at all. Your poor friend. I hope she has the support she needs elsewhere in her life.

OP - It’s extremely rude and middle aged adults should definitely know better! Can you get out of hosting next year if it’s all a bit much?

HamBone · 26/12/2023 19:37

I’d stop hosting if were you, enjoy your own Christmas with your immediate family.

I was slightly hungover on Christmas Day having brewed up some extra strong mulled wine at my neighbors’ the night before-it was delicious, but I’m not used to rum liberally mixed with wine! Water, a couple of coffees, a Paracetamol and a walk sorted me out. I had to manage as I was cooking!

Punk4ssBookJockey · 26/12/2023 19:53

It is rude to turn up and behave like that, so I would just leave them in their corner ad get on with the day. Cook and eat food as normal. If they choose not to eat, more for the rest of us. They can make themselves some toast when they feel up to it. If they are on the main room and the rest of us want to watch tv, play computer games or listen to music, that's what's happening. I wouldn't tell the kids to keep it down either. The hungover adult can make themselves scarce if they are uncomfortable. They are adults who should know better and any symptoms they are experiencing are totally self inflicted. No sympathy or pussy-footing around from me.

jc12689 · 26/12/2023 19:55

wearedonnnne · 26/12/2023 19:06

A drink problem because they are hungover from Christmas?

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It's not just a hangover though is it? It's a hangover so bad that you cannot function and sit in the corner like a gibbering wreck, with your head in your hands on Christmas day. It's what inexperienced teenagers do.

Middle aged people who get like that have a problem.

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baubl · 26/12/2023 22:56

HamBone · 26/12/2023 19:37

I’d stop hosting if were you, enjoy your own Christmas with your immediate family.

I was slightly hungover on Christmas Day having brewed up some extra strong mulled wine at my neighbors’ the night before-it was delicious, but I’m not used to rum liberally mixed with wine! Water, a couple of coffees, a Paracetamol and a walk sorted me out. I had to manage as I was cooking!

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It's a bit tricky because they come as part of a household that I do want with us.

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HamBone · 28/12/2023 01:48

Hmm, I think you’ll have to say something next year. It doesn’t have to be all serious, just half-jokingly say “ try to avoid a hangover this year, X, remember what you were like last Christmas!”