To think he's being pathetic..

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Me and my partner had a fall out Christmas Eve. Christmas Day we didn't speak a lot but put on a fake smile for my family who were coming round.
I took a few photos.. couple of me with kids, with my dad. Didn't take many and didn't take any with him, he was in the kitchen a lot of the time give him his due.
I put the photos on Facebook last night and he's away at football today. I woke up to an absolute load of abusive messages about the fact he isn't in any of the photos "I'm trying to hide something" basically accusing me of trying to pretend he's not there as he thinks I've got other men or something. I put photos of us together all the time.

Also he wants to take dd to see his family tomorrow. She currently has really bad cold/cough/temp. All I said was I don't know if it's sensible trailing her the length of the country (it's 5 hours away) when she's poorly, especially when his mum has just recovered from cancer. DD is 2. I said I'd stay home with her.
I'm being accused of trying to stop him seeing his family and that I just don't want him to go ... this is not the case she's just genuinely unwell and I don't think it's fair. I won't stop him, but I think it's selfish.

AIBU? It's like he's looking for anything to argue about..

YABU to be on FB in the firts place

Such a pointless response

He's still having a strop.

Re in-laws: attack first. Phone and explain that dd is unwell and you'd prefer that they see her another time. Or give them the option of coming over. Put her on to speak so at least there is some contact.

Re hubby: is this normal behaviour and do you want to continue putting up with this? Try not to let him goad you - easier said than done - and inform him that you won't put up with his nonsense.

Does he have any good qualities?

Kill 2 birds with one stone:

"You should definitely take her, that way I can have my boyfriend over"

This is just practise until you are fighting over custody / contact tbh
Your relationship is already dead in the water sadly

Yes a much better use of the Internet is to make catty remarks on a forum post of someone asking for advice.

It's goading. Just ignore and grey everything out.

I agree about contacting his family and explaining but if they say yes she should come, you're backed into a corner. So think it through.

It seems for so many that Christmas = control. No wonder people have such an awful time.

Raise the bar.