My brother has been with his partner since August.
Since they'e been together he's completely changed. He will cancel on family gatherings last minute. E.g. my mum's 60th, he kept texting to say he'll be with us in the next hour, never showed up in the end and then just apologised the next morning.
He said he was with his partner and she got unwell so he couldn't leave her - he then admitted to me after that he couldn't leave her as she would get moody and give him an earache. At this point they had only been together a month
Fast forward to when I had a baby. He kept making plans to come see us, and then would cancel on the day. I got a text off his partner (he gave her my number) and it said "we would love to come see you and baby so once i'm off work we will make time" - he later admitted to my sister that he isn't allowed to come visit us without her as she will start a fight :/ - i'm not sure why that would cause issues for her.
The worst part though are the lies. She lied about having siblings, she's lied about being in a coma, she's lied about where she works, also lied about her father passing away when he is actually alive.
I know all this because my brother picked up on the inconsistencies in her stories and she admitted to him they were lies, when I tried to express my concerns he told me not to get involved and that he's forgiven her. He said she just lied because she's insecure and to leave it at that.
I completely understand it's his choice but I feel worried for him. He's 23 and is marrying her in 2 months. Anytime me and my sister try to speak to him he will accuse us of not being happy for him. It does feel like she wants him to be completely isolated and to not attend family gatherings anymore. Anytime he is with his friends he gets a call from her saying she's unwell and needs him to come get her, and when he does so she's fine again. He says all this to me but still wants to be with her
Don't know what I want from this thread but just needed a place to write it out