What's hard about your relationship?

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Recently single and 3 long-term relationships behind me. Not sure I can go through it all again.. I'd like to have a family though.
However being single atm I feel so free. I don't mean free as in sexually available, but in the sense of doing whatever I want, eating what I like, choosing how I spend my evenings, that sort of thing.
Not having to constantly worry about whether I'm making enough effort, whether he'll commit, whether he'll go off me, do we spend enough time together, that sort of thing. Also the in laws..
Do you find anything hard in your relationship? I feel like the right relationship shouldn't be, however so much is compromise and effort.

Why did he have to get what he liked every evening?

Alot of people who live alone are lonely.
There's plus sides of having a relationship.

Company
Someone to share the load
Someone to help you when your ill
Somebody to run problems by. Two heads are better than one as they say.
More income.
Someone to go on holiday with etc.
So.eone who's got your back.

Everything. Absolutely everything

Mine isn’t hard. My life is easier in every way because of my husband. I see so many people in relationships which make their lives harder, where they have to compromise endlessly on things that are important to them, and I wonder if it’s worth it for them.

Different standards of cleanliness and organisation. Drives me fucking murderous.

The constant presence and needs of the kids. The guilt which comes with feeling that.

And pf course the in-laws.

I don’t find our relationship hard at all.

I find parenting very hard - I love DC immeasurably but very hard work - and this can impact on us as a couple sometimes.

so I guess I find things like ensuring we have time alone, child free, difficult at times.

The good stuff:
I feel cherished
i feel desired
he has my back all the time
i know I am a priority

the hard stuff
trust and suspicion (my issues but not entirely without a backstory)
effective communication when we both have very different views

my life is enriched 100 fold by my relationship but it’s by no means perfect

Yes, I agree with this.
my life is better and easier in all aspects because of DH. I could cope / survive without him if I had to, but my god things would be hard.