My boyfriend and I are still pretty young, we don't live together but we are planing to move in together in the coming year, we've been together a year and a half currently.
Coincidentally despite having met 300 miles from where we are from, are actually from the same county, we've now done two Christmas's together.
Last year we went up on the 22nd stayed with my parents until Christmas Day, did presents and breakfast left at midday, went to his nanas for dinner, then to his mums stayed there until the 28th but spent Boxing Day at his dads.
This year we came up on the 22nd, stayed at his mums until Christmas Day, did presents there yesterday morning then came over to my parents for dinner. Now today we are still going to his dads for Boxing Day (we spent most of Christmas Eve with him too). The main reason is half sister goes to their dads on Boxing Day so this is the only day to see her. It's an hour from his mums to my parents and 40 minutes from his dads to my parents so it's a lot of back and forth and time in the car.
I'm a little annoyed that we spent the 3 days before Christmas with his family, and now on one of the days we should be with my family technically we are still going to his. He thinks we should view each house individually and split it 1/3 to each, I think his family should represent 1/2 and my family the other.
Basically we spent all of Friday (we arrived at 3am Friday morning), half of Saturday, Sunday morning and half of Christmas with his mums side, and half of Saturday and most of Sunday with his dads side, plus all of today. But will have only had half of Christmas and tomorrow with my family. He thinks it will work its self as we go back and forth over the years but it's sort of upset me.
We don't have kids yet and have agreed when we do we will host and everyone can come to us and sort out the schedule themselves but in the meantime we both really like "going home" and being in our own houses etc.
AIBU to think this is an unfair split? How can we split it better in the future?