Not even a thank you?

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I've had a couple of Baileys so this is annoying me more than it should. Those who buy for other's kids - do you expect a thank you? I buy for my friend's 3 children, all 12 and older, and I've never had a thank you from either the kids themselves or my friend.
I don't have children so nothing to compare to but I'd like to think if I did and folk bought them gifts, I'd insist they thanked them (or thank them myself). Thoughts?

Yes , v ungrateful if they don't ever say thank you. I would stop buying

It’s Christmas Day ! Who wanted to sit as a child on Christmas Day completing thankyou cards ? I think you are expecting too much

Yes it's ungrateful. I would remind my kids to say thank you if they ever forgot.

Most kids know to actually say thank you when they get given a gift though?

What do you mean in terms of a ‘thank you’ because on here people seem to think a text isn’t enough but for me that’s perfectly fine.

I’ve never given a gift without the recipient saying ‘thank you’ when I handed it over and that’s fine for me anyway.

For their Christmas presents? I think it’s too soon to be cross. We often send cards so would be a few days yet, especially if handmade.

And even if by text, I wouldn’t expect it on Christmas Day.

Stop buying the gifts, you really don't need to

I’m torn on this, of course they should thank you (at some point) but I see why they might not thank you on the day, assuming you aren’t seeing or speaking to them on Christmas Day itself. The day can be hectic and it gets missed. But if you sent a message wishing your friend a merry Christmas, could you add ‘hope the kids liked their presents’ and see what she replies with? If you never, ever get a thank you, just stop buying in future.

The kids have obviously never been taught to say thank you for gifts, and that’s absolutely your friend’s fault. Either she should thank you on their behalf or she should get them to say thanks. Doesn’t have to be on the day or anything though!

My ex-SIL never thanked me or made her kids thank me for gifts or money. (My brother did, but if the birthday fell when it wasn’t his custody time he wasn’t actually aware of what they’d got from me.)

Depending on the situation I would either send you a txt : Merry Christmas. Little Louise loves the teddy, thank you. Or DD write a thank you card in which case you’d get it the next time we saw you or we would drop it to yours at some point during holidays but not today.