Just ranting really cos I know IANBU. Mum and Lord Stepdad arrived for Christmas dinner. Lord stepdad does what lordly men do and parks his arse in the comfiest spot and waits to be waited on hand and foot. Even being handed the tv remote and directing womenfolk to what they should put on his plate (sitting at the head of the table) instead of serving himself from the dishes in the middle of the table like everyone else does. Meh. He's mum's problem 364 days of the year. I can tell him to get off his arse this one day..
Now because I'm no wet wipe, this isn't my aibu. I just tell him to get stuff himself etc and don't take his shit. it's mum who's wound me up but he doesn't help my patience.
I've three teens. Mum is the greatest grandma of all time if you were to look at her FB page. In reality she has little to do with them.
For my DS she wanted to get him a "big gift" so I suggested a men's bike. Great. Except I had to go get the money out of an old joint account we have (was from an old business we had), I had to go find a bike (I offered to give her the simple parameters but she said no), buy the bike, have it delivered to me, build the bike, wrap it and present it to DS!
My DDs were to get money. Did she bother popping some in a card? No. She told me at 5pm TODAY to transfer it out of the joint and into the girls accounts because she "didn't get a chance to" in the bloody month running up to the 25th of December.
And earlier, as she walked into the house she asked for a Christmas card to put my DH's cash in. I just told her no. Not this time. She's put more effort into putting her shoes on today than organising 4 measly presents, 3 of which are just cash and one was to be bought online.
I'm not wrong for putting my foot down and telling her to turn around, go buy a card from the shop a street away and come back instead of expecting me to do all her gifting for her, whilst I was fucking busy cooking for 8? It caused a bit of upset tbh. I offended her and it wasn't her fault ya know.