Everyone sick, no heads up

[keojam80]

Go over for Xmas dinner with my baby, and other children.
The whole living room is filled with their family members who live in the household, all wrapped in blankets coughing and spluttering everywhere, fevers too.
No heads up prior to arriving that people are ill. One person had two episodes of vomiting and kept coming down to sit around.
Dinner was cooked by an ill person. Nobody kept their hands off my baby and even coughed whilst holding him.
I was hoping dh would step in and say nope but he just looked on.
In the end I stood up after dinner whilst mil picked up the baby again and said right well seeing as everyone is sick we are going now.

Fuming. Wasn't expecting to come into that and felt trapped because dinner was already being served as we arrived.
I would much rather stay home if I knew if people were that ill

As soon as you clocked they were ill you could have left though. I know it’s awkward , but there’s no point raging after you’ve sat there and eaten!
Very inconsiderate of them though. ILs I presume?

@TwentyThreeFifteen yes I was sitting seething
But felt too awkward and rude to get up and leave and it would have caused a huge argument. It was an uncomfortable situation. I chose to keep my distance as much as I could but they weren't respecting that so I left pretty soon after dinner.

My FIL arrived with a cold that required lemsip and wearing his coat inside (I assume a fever). Not very happy as we have a trip booked for next week and I’d like to be well for it. Having said that, we wouldn’t have left him alone for Xmas and he’s done his best to keep his distance.

I would not be happy: why on earth didn’t the6 tell you? Too keen to see the baby? I hope none of yo7 catch anything. What has your Dh said?

@Cherrysoup I saw him looking but he felt too awkward to step in when she had the baby...but I stood up and said oh since everyone is ill we are off.
I was more mad at the lack of respect and hygiene coughing without hands over mouth, picking up baby, spluttering around food and serving it. It's totally minging.

@mumofone2019 I did not pass the baby around. They kept picking him up without any consent. I wanted them to stay clear from the baby. We left the room several times to try and create distance.

I think I’d have offended everyone by refusing to hand over the baby, but I appreciate it’s pretty difficult when they normally have him/her. Really thoughtless of them. 😢

We had to phone my 84 year old FIL who was 84 on Xmas Eve morning when he was due to drive over(he loves 140 miles away - to say my H had tested positive for covid and also let my BIL andSIL and niece who were due with us on Boxing Day know too- our 25 year old son was already here but was going back today (90 miles) at 12 to be with his girlfriend

We are due to fly out to Sweden on Friday - as is my FIL and son - so my H is up in our bedroom with meals delivered to door to try and stop me getting it as neither of us want to pass it to FIL- going to be touch and go if it clears in time. Bloody weird afternoon downstairs on my own- got Xmas music on and started on a book

That's incredibly selfish of your relatives