IOU for a Xmas present?

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Husband has put an IOU in my Xmas card this year. It’s for a meal out dinner - which is a lovely idea, but I’ll need to choose where to go, when, sort out child care for the kids & book dog into kennels… AIBU if I just forget about it….?

Surely he organises that as part of taking you out?

YANBU, that’s not really a present if you have to do all the work, it’s an obligation

Tell him you would like to go out the first Saturday in February or other date and he needs to sort everything out.

A dinner out is a present for him as well.

You pick the date then he does the plan.

Can't you just tell him to sort a babysitter?

Do you desperately want to go out for dinner? How much would something like this normally cost (including babysitters).
Say you want that amount in cash instead and buy something you want just for you.

Unless he organises everything, that's a shit gift.

Er, kennels for the dogs for dinner?

“AIBU if I just forget about it….?”

Well yeah, you could just ignore the issue. Or you could tell him what you’ve said here, and that for it to be a present he needs to do those things.

I want to know what the issue is with your dog though, that the babysitter can deal 😳

Surely picking where to go is the best bit!? I'd much rather that than have someone else choose something that wasn't to my liking.

If someone was taking me anywhere I would also want heavy input into the date - so it fits around my other plans.

I swear some people look for problems in everything.

you book the restaurant, get him to sort the rest whilst you have a bit of pamper time before your meal out. Have a great time- sounds like a lovely gift!

Or he pays for you and a couple of friends to go out for dinner...

I think you're making a fuss about nothing. You don't have to do any of those things. Tell him when you'd like to go & he can sort out the details or just go with a friend

We live in the middle of nowhere, kids would probably need an overnight stay at grandparents as they won’t travel….

That’s a bit of a shit present-an IOU? I would do as pp suggest, tell him where and when, tell him to sort. Any handy family who can dog/babysit? Why would the dog need to go into kennels? Can’t they be left for a few hours with someone?

Got something similar - tickets to a gig in a city several hours away. Lovely thought and was quite expensive, but has t organised baby sitter, kennels or hotel

skip the organising child care and dog care, have a nice meal out catching up with a friend.

Find a friend you want to catch up with, and use your IOU for a dinner out with them, leaving your DH to look after the kids.

A present that he gets more out of than you (he gets the night out without sorting out the logistics) is not a real present.

If he's paying for a meal, presumably only for an evening, why do the dogs need to go into kennels? A couple of hours is nothing and dogs will cope