DD ( just turned 9 ) is at her dads for Christmas this year - we alternate Christmases and Birthdays, have done since we split when she was 10 months old. Amicable coparenting relationship, usually has her 1 night a week ( his choice ).
This year is his 'turn' for Christmas. He went to see family with her 23rd - 24th but decided not to stay up there with her for the day which is what he'd usually do so they're spending the day just the two of them at his house.
I texted at 10am wishing him a happy Christmas and asking if we could sort a time for me to call DD with DH and her brothers- I've heard nothing, he hasn't even opened it. It's made me feel really sad and a bit cross. On 'my year', I always make sure DD has time to talk to her dad, the same on birthdays although he didn't bother calling her until 8pm on her birthday this year and it was a 2 minute conversation. She doesn't have her own phone so contact is done via us.
AIBU to feel crap about it?
Not to drip feed - his wife left him a few months back due to his behaviour ( turns out leopards don't change their spots..) and it's like he's decided he needs to be a martyr about it in a well I'm alone now so we have to spend Christmas alone.