Do you care if your child says loo, toilet, bathroom or bog?

[mantyzer]

And importantly why?
I ask because I do not understand why anyone cares about things like this and want to understand peoples thoughts around this.

Interesting that you think not middle class = rough.

Ladies powder room anyone?

Ok we use loo, or toilet to be fair. Although I do like bathroom but it's American so doesn't sound quite right here.

Big is school teen talk.

Are there really people who wouldn't care whatsoever if your child asked to go to the bog / shitter at school?!

I hate bathroom when they mean toilet. It's so American and twee to pretend you're not going to the toilet. Not as bad as restroom.

Already this morning various children in this house have said candy, A to Zee and bathroom and been corrected.

If I was in a shop, restaurant or a work situation I would ask where the toilet is, not lav, loo, shitter or bog though

I loathe the word "toilet" - it makes me cringe.

I grew up calling it a toilet or loo. My DD17 says toilet. I sometimes also say Pot which is a leftover from DDs potty training days. But it really doesn't matter.

We don't use 'bog' Just not in our vocabularly.

I'm a marketing manager and wordsmith. I like language, it earns me a living, and I don't see a reason to make conversation unnecessarily ugly.

But I don't control ds' vocabulary either, with the exception of a couple of truly nasty swear words. Just lead by example.

Bog/shitter - in my whole life (50 plus years) I have never known anyone use either of these words other than on TV. They're both equally vile.

This is the same for me. My children said loo until they went to school and now it is toilet. I still don't like it personally and always use loo, but I'm not going to start correcting them now they are adults!

"Loo" is the room, toilet is the object. I'd always ask for the loo.

Can't bear bathroom or washroom when it's just a loo / toilet (such as at school - it's confusing, factually inaccurate & prob anti-American snobbery on my part).

I dislike people saying 'pardon' when they mean 'what'. Similar U/non U hang up

That's wrong.

Loo is middle class, toilet working class. Look it up. Bit like napkin v serviette.

It was always loo for us OP. Bog is awful.

Loo. Sometimes Americans call it the powder room, that tickles me, or a half bath.

I don't want to hear any descriptor of what happens, I don't need a visual. Loo, toilet or bathroom is fine.

Loo in the house. Don't care what they say when I'm not around. I know I am irrational. They humour me.

Happy with bog. I am old and posh enough to prefer vulgarity to refinement!

I would correct them if they said loo and disown them if they said bog. couldn't imagine ANY of my friends or family saying bog anyway.

I wouldn’t be thrilled if my daughter called it a shitter or bog to a teacher. I wouldn’t really care what she said around her friends.

But quite a lot of the pearl clutching about these phrases is snobbery dressed up as politeness. My only real stipulation for my child would be not to gratuitously offend anyone. Personally I find toilet more grating than bog: it’s tweeness and aspirational clenchedness annoys me, but I am big and ugly enough to recognise that that’s my problem and no one else’s.

I’m not going to micromanage her language (or anyone else’s) on the basis of trying to make her look refined or middle class.

I grew up in North American in the late 70s/early 80s and we were not allowed to use toilet as it sounded too crass, like using bog over in the U.K. now, I guess.

After living here for many years now I can just about accept my children using toilet without cringing but I generally use loo or, at home, bathroom.

I would care a lot about this as a child announcing it needs 'the shitter' is just horrible. 'bog' just sounds very common. Poor, toilet, bathroom etc all fine. Not so bad once older so long as they are capable of adjusting their language to suit the company they are in.

No.

Wasn't the other thread about this the other day boring enough?

Well you do know because it was exactly this thread. So why start another.

Lavatory is the only acceptable term!

@theduchessofspork

Well you do know because it was exactly this thread. So why start another.

The vast majority of Mumsnet threads are perennial themes which have been picked over hundreds of times.

Theres no stipulation that everything has to be original material. It’s not a stand up comedy competition.

Let people talk about what they want to talk about. If it offends you don’t post but you can’t control other people’s discourse.