Just had a really nasty argument with DH about Christmas arrangements (we're spending a lot of time with his family this year and I had made a suggestion that would give us more time at home on Christmas Day - he took this as an insult to his family)- he got really annoyed and shouted and swore at me repeatedly. He also tried to involve DS by asking what he would have thought if he'd been in DH's position, making it out to him that id insulted his family. Poor DS was really torn so I left the room and told him to tell DH what he wanted to hear so he would leave him alone.
Situation was resolved and, in my opinion, which I appreciate may not be exactly objective, I don't think I did anything wrong.
However he hasn't apologised for his he acted when we argued. I can't raise the issue as I don't want another fall out in front of the kids this close to christmas. This happens regularly when we argue. He gets quite nasty but doesn't see an issue with it. - he says that when he's annoyed, he'll sound annoyed. So he won't apologise. He also sees nothing wrong with dragging the kids into the argument which I think is just a really big no-no.
We don't argue like this that often, maybe once every couple of months but when we do, I really struggle to just shrug this off as acceptable.
I've tried to explain it to him and he seems to think I'm overly sensitive and that his behaviour is normal. I just can't square someone who would speak to me in a nasty manner and not be sorry about it with someone who loves me. I feel that every time I just put it behind me and move on, I'm letting myself down but it happens so infrequently that it's not worth ruining a good relationship over.
AIbu to hold on to this hurt? Should I be less sensitive?