AIBU missing sons birthday

[MummyLozza]

AIBU to go out with my parents on my son's birthday? They were meant to be going out with friends, who for very sad reasons can't go.. AIBU to miss sons birthday? Husband says I shouldn't go, I feel bad on my son but also don't doubt it it was the other way around hubby wouldn't hesitate to go. For context will be gone for a few hours from about 10-4pm, son will be turning 3...

Missing a big bit of info here...How old is your son?

How old is your son, and will he care?

If he will miss you, I wouldn’t. He comes before DPs.

Of they’re too young to notice / old enough to be out with their mates, then do what you fancy.

YBU - 10-4 is a huge part of the day. It’s not dinner, it’s a day out. How old is your son?

He will be turning 3... So old enough to know I'm not there? I just want everyone to be happy.

Who are you people pleasing for, your parents? No I don’t think you should go.

Why don’t your DPs want to see their grandson on his birthday either?

Yes yabu it's one day of the year. Shocking.

No way at that age. He will know and care!!

My 3 year old will be going to nursery on their birthday 🤷🏼‍♀️

Unless they are at nursery/pre-school it would be more usual to plan something to do with a 3 year old on their birthday at some point between 10 and 4 ... what are you doing for his birthday? If you've got plans for earlier in the morning (present opening and playing with presents) and a birthday tea, I actually think it would be ok to go out for the middle bit.

But ... if you're a people pleaser, do you actually want to go? Or would you rather spend the day with your immediate family?

At 3, I probably would go with my parents if that's what I wanted to do.

Theyre up at the crack of Dawn at that age anyway so you can be with him in the morning and make a fuss and then make then a special dinner/go out for tea in the evening.

I wouldn't miss either of my children's Birthdays for anything in the world! (School/nursery aside). My oldest was 6 a few weeks ago and youngest turns 3 in a month, she would be absolutely heartbroken 💔

I wouldn't miss my son's birthday no matter what.

Your parents have each other. YABU

I really don't see it as a big deal missing a 3 year olds birthday.

Can't you all spend the day together?

Just tell him his birthday is the day after or before and celebrate it then? We always did that if it was a nursery day etc anyway.

If he gets up at 6am you would have four hours with him before you left anyway?

I dont see it as totally out of the question

I wouldn’t miss my sons birthday for something like this. He will be in school soon and you won’t often have the choice. Take him out and have a nice day with him.

I would spend the day with my son.

Very weird tbh. I would never want to be away from my children on their birthdays. It would feel so awful and I would feel so guilty and miss them terribly. If your parents really want to see you then they should be joining you for your son's celebration too (I would have thought they would do that anyway tbh).

Don’t your parents know it’s his bday- no I wouldn’t miss my child’s bday out of choice

At 3, your child will not be aware of the exact date.

Is he having a party with guests, and is it already arranged?

If not, just change the birthday celebration to the next day.

If yes, then give him a family birthday the next day in addition to the party.

Personally I’d choose to spend the day with my son.
why do your parents need you with them. Is it a special day of some kind for them?

Honestly? I think it’s desperately sad that you would be happy to miss your three year old’s birthday. it just seems so very odd to be considering being away from your very young child on their birthday by choice.

I feel like you must be missing some important bit of info. Why can't you all do something together given that he's their grandchild?!