Anyone else sick of this already?

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just a rant really. I’ve done literally everything- food shop, bought and wrapped all gifts . Everything. Kids arguing non stop. Husband hasn’t even bought be so much as a candle. I look forward to this every year and I wonder why. Organise nice days out everyone ends up arguing. No one wants anything other than a screen. Anyone else?

All those saying you’re losing the love of Christmas because of the stress - STOP.

In November make a list of all the Christmas jobs. Scrap any that you don’t really, really care about. (Homemade wreath? Only if you enjoy doing it. Matching PJs? Only if your kids need new PJs. Etc..) Divide the rest between you and DH. Or pencil in some weekend mornings/afternoons over December when he can take the kids out so you can do the jobs.

I used to really over complicate Christmas and I’ve been simplifying and giving more and more jobs to DH every year since 2020. 3 young kids. You can do it. Good luck for next year, and tomorrow.

Also - the kids are probably arguing because they’re over tired and over excited. So scrap the big days out. Our days are slow mornings - drawing, Lego, baking etc and then I insist on a play outside for a couple of hours after lunch then we can all have a film and hot choc together. Just simple, simple, simple. Recovery from the exhausting term we’ve all just had.

So my useless men. Why do women put up with this nonsense year in year out?

OP, give him all the cleaning up to do tomorrow...

Coming off most social media and avoiding the news for the most part was one of the best things I’ve ever done. I see none of this crap anymore and god, it is SO much better for my mental health and general well-being.

It’s all fake anyway…all these picture perfect insta posts and blah blah blah. Stop subjecting yourselves to it all. It literally does nothing but bring misery and highlight all that’s wrong with the world. It is fucking toxic. Though some people seem to be addicted to toxic things and people and just keep doing it, unable to break the cycle of misery it brings.

All you women with shit, lazy partners really need to sit down and take stock. What are YOU getting from your family set up versus what you are putting in? If there’s an imbalance set about making some changes for your own sake, health and happiness. Just because you’re a partner/wife/mother it doesn’t mean you have be forgotten about.

Are you ok? Your post is quite worrying.

Stop doing unnecessary stuff like home made wreaths, elf on a shelf, xmas eve boxes, gifts for adults, cards, etc and scale things down as much as you can. It won't cure a lazy partner though, obviously, but it will remove some of the stress.

Yep. Absolutely sick of having to tell tween to get off his phone and actually interact. He has no idea how much money and effort has been spent on him.

Dh has done bits but only on my instruction.

I swear next year I won't bother. But then it will be a very sad affair and I'll feel bad.

Have a Bailey's and watch Die Hard 2. It's working for me.

Gifts for adults aren’t unnecessary. What a misery!

Hi @ChristmasCracker23

I am - thank you

Sorry, didn't mean to be a worry

Just that he's one of those that tries to help and creates another job....
in between asking stupid questions

"Where is X?"
Same place it's been for 100 years....

Setting the table "shall I put cutlery out too?"
No, we'll eat with our fingers

That kind of thing
Drives me nuts, esp when not 100%
But I have wine 😊

Thanks for checking on me

Apologies, I construed your post as in an abusive “I’ll regret it” way. I’m so glad you’re ok and have wine. Merry Christmas ☺️

Yes I see that now @ChristmasCracker23

🤦‍♀️ didn't think of it like that

Maybe I should have put he'll regret it 🤣

We're all organised now anyway

I know it's not funny but that made me laugh.😃

@mrswhiplington
You have to laugh tho sometimes

He's a decent, kind man but Lord he tries my patience....

Washing machine finishes "shall I get the washing out?"
No, leave it in the machine to fester, it'll dry eventually

Or the time I said "gravy is a bit thick, can you put some water in pls?" And he filled it to the top with cold water. (Didn't even stir it, which seemed really poor 🤣)

Or that we have half a dozen gifts for other people, that were in with ours... because I asked him to check the gifts in the bags we'd been given. He checked, he saw there were other people's in with ours. That was the end of is...

Quiet quit

You have to

Dh has made dinner three nights this week, and the cake for DS's birthday

I've just stopped doing everything, so he has to do more.

Nagging didn't work

I've adopted a few choice phrases:

' I forgot'

'I didn't realize'

'I didn't know'

'oh, yeah?'

But people choose to do these things and did the same before social media with people trying to one-up each other. All those things you mentioned were definitely issues as well, it’s only because people choose to use social media and talk about it that there is more awareness.

No one is forcing people to do the countless Christmas trends. It shouldn’t have to be said that what you see on social media isn’t always a complete picture of someone’s life.

Social media isn’t rammed down people’s throats if they choose to have it and interact with it. People can take a step away from it at anytime or delete their accounts if they want or feel the need to.

Christmas is exhausting with younger children, I feel for you! Make sure you take some time for yourself in amongst the craziness! They will remember all the effort you put in once they are old enough to realise-but that doesn't mean you should put yourself bottom of the pile in the process-you matter too!

Have you turned into a man?

@phoenixrosehere fair points 👍.

Merry Christmas 🤗

You’re choosing to enable this behaviour of your husband. Why? In the long run it’s going to harm everyone living with a stressed out, burnt out mother and also modelling that women must do everything. Something has to give.

Thanks all. Just very glad now that we are on the other side which I know sounds miserable. Have really struggled finding the joy this year!