DH is in a shit position this Christmas. It was supposed to be our year to have DSS for Christmas but his ex has done a 360 and decided she's keeping him (that's a whole other thread). He's not kicked off about it as he didn't want to fall out over Christmas and make it awkward for DSS who's caught in the middle.
DH has been struggling with the thought of not seeing DSS at Christmas which I understand is really difficult for him and he's been quite down about it.
I've just lost it with him today though. It seems this has now all turned around on me somehow (lashing out I suppose but really unfairly imo).
He was in an awful mood all morning saying ti just leave him alone etc.. and I said look I understand its really shit but we have a shared DC too who's Christmas it also is and he can't just make it about DSS, he needs to try and move past it to give our child a nice Christmas.
I then got a huge barage of abuse saying I don't give a shit about DSS, all I care about is our child, I don't give a shit that he can't see DSS over Christmas etc etc. Basically turning the whole thing round on me.
I am so hurt. I am a good step mother I know I am. I have spent my own money (we don't share finances) on presents for DSS, I have gone out and made him his own Xmas eve box despite him not being with us and filled it with nice things for when he does come and so on.
I just lost my patience with it and told him how unreasonable he was, how if he ruins our child's Christmas over this he's a fucking twat and he needs to either grow some balls with his ex or get over it if he just wants to roll over to her in future. I'm now not talking to him and am just so angry that he's lashed out at me in that way. Saying all I care about is our child and not DSS is SO unfair. I do so fucking much for DSS.
Happy bloody Christmas I guess.