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Leeds festival - is it safe? Posting here for traffic

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Flyhigher · 24/12/2023 06:34

Is Leeds safe- positive stories please! Dd 16 is going!

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DustyLee123 · 24/12/2023 06:43

My 20 something son went but he left early as he said that it was getting dangerous, and he’d never go again. Sorry, but I can’t not tell you. Make sure you keep in touch while they are there.

Spillwaysofyoursoul · 24/12/2023 06:44

Depends what you mean by safe really? Is your DD fairly streetwise and sensible?

Flyhigher · 24/12/2023 08:55

Did your DD's just drink? Or did they take pills? Were they ok?

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Deathbyathousandcats · 24/12/2023 08:56

Leeds and Reading tend to be the dodgier festivals historically.

Flyhigher · 24/12/2023 08:59

Are there any positive stories? DD is going so need some positives!

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Deathbyathousandcats · 24/12/2023 09:00

Well, one of my daughters went to Reading when she was 15 and she was alright, despite having all her money stolen from her tent

Flyhigher · 24/12/2023 09:02

She's going with a group. Including about 10 boys. Worried they will all try pills.

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BrimfulOfMash · 24/12/2023 09:03

Thousands upon thousands of post GCSE kids go every year, but considering the numbers the casualties are low: one death in recent years due to dodgy MDMA.

If your teen is sensible enough not to drink themselves into a stupor and not to buy / take drugs then they will return tired, hollow eyed and filthy, like all the others.

I can’t say I didn’t worry though!

Spillwaysofyoursoul · 24/12/2023 09:04

Why’s she bought a ticket if she can’t see any positives? Why are you asking if others took pills - she doesn’t have to if she doesn’t want to? Who is she going with and are they likely to stick together?

BrimfulOfMash · 24/12/2023 09:05

Of course there are positive stories! Thousands and thousands go and have a great time!

My Dc and all their friends included.

VisionsOfSplendour · 24/12/2023 09:05

Guessing the numbers but say 150000 people across both sites each year of course the overwhelming majority of them have a perfectly safe experience but even if they didn't what happened in the past isn't going to determine what happens to your daughter

I used to live nearish to a festival site where at least one person died every year, should that have stopped me letting my child go?

hauntedvagina · 24/12/2023 09:05

Flyhigher · 24/12/2023 09:02

She's going with a group. Including about 10 boys. Worried they will all try pills.

She doesn't need to be at a festival to try pills.

I went at 16 (a very, very, very long time ago!!) and was fine. Saying that, if my own children asked to go at 16 I don't know what I'd say!!

oldcottage · 24/12/2023 09:07

If she’s 16 now it’s not till August she’ll be on the way to 17? It’s full of kids her age, if her friends do pills they’ll do pills, she doesn’t have to (I never did despite most of my friends loving pills!) it’s more about the friends she’s with than the festival itself. As long as she’s got like minded ally to stay with out of the 10 then that should reassure her.

If you’re worried she’ll do pills then ensure she’s familiar with types, check the drug contamination warnings beforehand, see if they’ll have a testing tent at Leeds fest and have an open conversation about taking pills safely.

Gobimanchurian · 24/12/2023 09:11

My twins went last year (separately, boy and girl at different schools) at end Y11, and eldest went a few years back. They had a ball. Came back sunburnt, hoarse and shattered. I sent them each with a litre of vodka (to last 4 nights) and some precautionary tales, stay in pairs, no man gets left behind etc.

If your DD is under 18 they can't buy alcohol inside the main arena where the bands are and are bag searched on the way in. So they drink at camp and then only get progressively more sober whilst watching the acts 👍. Generally the after at the tent is a big social too, music, camping chairs and sitting around.

Try not to worry. It's a rite of passage for kids round here who are 16-18, the vast vast majority of kids are that age. Stay in their groups and they'll be fine.

VioletPickles · 24/12/2023 09:12

My daughter went at 16 for the day and had a ball, I took her down and went in too, obvs left her to it. Definitely saw drugs being openly dealt in front of me. Although the only thing I was asked for was sun cream 😂 .
the next year she went for the full 5 days and had the time of her life. She didn’t do drugs and didn’t drink a huge amount though. The last night was a bit wild to be fair. Tents set alight ( not by her!) etc but they just stayed away from that stuff. She’s going again this year. Happy to answer any questions you have

Tiffanysepiphany · 24/12/2023 09:13

Ok all mine have gone lots of times.
in recent years the dangers have been very well publicised, and they have sniffer dogs, bag checks,lots of emergency staff and security. That has to be your reassurance, and there are lots of people there.
Power banks, (multiple) are a must and phone reception is very scant.
Honestly it’s a few days where you’re sat at home worried sick but they’ll probably just come back muddy and knackered. You have to just put your faith in the measures in place.
It doesn’t really get easier if they’re 16 or 25!

Tacotortoise · 24/12/2023 09:13

Ds1 worked it last year and he was 17. He said it was fine but I'd suggest your dd leaves after the last act on the last night as that's when things get a bit wild. That said, I don't think there was any setting tents alight nonsense last year (staff have their own camping area so we knew he'd be fine).

Spiritoftheseas · 24/12/2023 09:17

DD went post GCES’s with a big group of boys and girls and they were all fine. Her and a couple of her friends did come home after the last act on the Sunday though because it was getting a bit rowdy with the tent burning.

She had a great time although slept for about 2 days afterwards.

BrringBrringMeow · 24/12/2023 09:44

I went to Reading last year and it was fantastic. The scheduling of the music is so great that you would spoil it by being intoxicated, so I don’t think people would feel a ‘need’ to get off their faces to have a good time.

There’s a lot there about safety- loads of welfare tents and even spiritual counselling dotted along the walkways if anyone was hurt, scared or depressed. There was lots around - posters, leafleting, etc about consent. Volunteers would approach mixed groups and talk about consent and where to find help (but being met with eyerolls).

There was obviously a lot of drinking going on, people staggering around later on. But there is a lot done to stop things being smuggled in. There is a supermarket where people can buy alcohol on site, but a case of lager is heavy, so no one could carry many back to their tents, so it is fairly self-limiting.

Of the thousands attending, there seemed to only be a couple of hundred- max- bopping into the early hours which would suggest they were on pills/speed, it definitely didn’t seem like the thing everyone was doing after hours.

The young women seem to have been inspired by Love Island or something to wear very impractical and revealing clothing, which was a bit shocking at first, but since so many are doing it, it is less of a worry that they’ll be targeted by predatory men.

I was part of a very small minority of ‘grown-ups’ and it was very sweet the way the young people kept asking me questions and thinking I must work there, they seemed so young and reassured that a mum-age woman was there.

If it were my child I would give them very clear advice.

  1. Don’t pitch your tent right next to the path very close to the entrance to the stages - people are likely to fall on it, steal from it, males might urinate on it because they can’t find the loos.
  2. Stick together with your friends, agree on a meeting point if you get separated and your phone is flat. Discuss what you want to see and where you’ll head. There might be a thing of “always head for the front right of the stage” to improve your chances of finding each other. It also might be an idea to write your friends phone numbers down and all members of the group have a copy, so you can get in touch if you are separated and phones run out of battery.
  3. Be mindful of your drink getting spiked - open up your own drinks and keep hold of them.
  4. Be sun safe and stay hydrated.
  5. Look out for each other, share a tent with your friends or pitch them right next to each other.
  6. Sleep with your valuables under your pillow or feet - ie- away from the tent door and don’t leave anything valuable in your tent.
StasisMom · 24/12/2023 09:45

My DD has been twice, only camped first time and went for day second time. She's still alive, that's about as ouch as I can tell you. They can do pills any time, I wouldn't worry about a festival being the lost likely location.

Violetparis · 24/12/2023 09:59

My daughter (18) went last year and was fine. Her friend lost a trainer after she left them outside her tent during the day. Tell your daughter not to leave anything outside her tent (sounds obvious !), groups of lads were going round throwing trainers etc they found as far as they could.

ChristmasSteps295 · 24/12/2023 10:01

I went to Reading when I was 17. It was a while ago now, but absolutely no regrets here. I did take pills, but we had those already. It was fine, although the news crew that interviewed my friend and I briefly thought better of it! We were quite worse for wear 😂

The only drugs we bought there were some hash brownies. We did get ripped off there. But I've bought drugs at plenty of other festivals since and never had a bad batch.

I don't recommend buying drugs at a festival, but it's usually pretty safe. If you think there's a risk of her taking them, make sure she follows some sensible rules like taking a half first (you can always take more, you can't take less!), staying hydrated (you should send her with a big collapsible bottle that will hold several litres for the tent), staying out of the sun or at least wearing a cap and sunglasses, having a jumper for cold nights, having a kit for morning recovery (painkillers, Pro Plus, berocca, rehydration sachets etc), making sure she knows where her tent is, and always knowing where her friends are, and the welfare tent, fully charged phone from power bank kept in a bum bag, not taking mystery powders when she doesn't know what they are etc.

If it's not drugs, it'll probably be alcohol and you can make yourself extremely ill with that alone so best to drill in how to stay safe.

The vast majority of people are there to have a good time, watch bands, and get a bit silly. You'll get the odd rogue in the crowd but that's the same everywhere.

Fourfurrymonsters · 24/12/2023 10:03

My daughter and her 4 pals (all female) went to Leeds at 16/17. I was terrified…they had a blast. They ended up with their tent pitched next to a big group of lads who sort of looked out for them (no romance, just friendly). Muse were headlining that year so I was quite jealous tbh. Leeds is full of folks that age and while of course there’s always a few bad eggs, the vast majority are there just to have a good time.

Flyhigher · 26/12/2023 00:50

Thank you! Any known safe fields?

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LikeRobbieSays · 26/12/2023 00:57

My DD went 2022 as a 16 yo
Told me she was fine while there but came home with all the horror stories
Went in 2023 and said it was much better safety wise in the campsites etc and had the time of her life both times tbf
Let them go, make sure they have phone chargers and emergency money for charging phones
I've spent the full weekends while they were they were there waiting to hear from them and panicking when I didn't but honestly they will come home stinking but having had the time of their lives
Wish I'd have done if when I was younger!

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