Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

WWYD?

3 replies

robinsnest1967 · 23/12/2023 18:54

My cousin is a few years older than me (60s) and we normally have a good friendship and are going on a holiday of a lifetime in a few weeks. However I have been going through severe anxiety recently due to having trauma therapy which has triggered a few things (nothing to do with her). She always insists on facetiming but for some strange reason I can't do this as it makes me super anxious so I've voicenoted her explaining why. She has replied by text saying to "fucking" ring her then as voicenoting isn't good enough. This has now made me super anxious because I know if I call her she will have a complete go at me. I've had 6 weeks of sleeping no more than 2 or 3 hours due to the therapy and now I know the anticipation of ringing her will add to my sleepless nights. I only have another 4 sessions of therapy and I know things get worse before they get better so I'm not worried about that per se. But with my cousin it's getting to the point of saying I don't want to go away with you as I feel bullied. Am I being oversensitive over the facetime/call thing?

OP posts:
Marwoodsbigbreak · 23/12/2023 18:57

Does cousin know you are undergoing therapy/struggling to sleep/have past trauma?

She sounds rather insensitive.

If one of my friends said Oh I can't cope with facetiming right now, can we just message, I would say sure, that's fine. And that is without all the additional issues you mentioned.

MiddleagedBeachbum · 23/12/2023 19:10

Just call them, they want to connect before you travel away together. It will be much nicer for you both for the trip if you open up now, explain what’s been going on for you. Just speak to them!!

robinsnest1967 · 23/12/2023 19:33

Yes she knows I'm having therapy and she knows the reasons why. I'm in a very sensitive state right now and she won't be gentle with me at all. She can be very aggressive in her tone which terrifies me to be honest. I know she doesn't mean it but she has no filter.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page