Another Christmas one!

[geobun]

I have been in bed for the past four days with a horrible virus, very poorly. Slightly better today but eldest DC has also come down with it, not as bad, but the beginnings.

We were meant to be seeing DHs family tomorrow but obviously are not going now. His Nan is also very vulnerable. One family member is extremely upset by this and have asked if my DH and 3 DC can still go - leaving me on my own.

DH said he is not leaving me alone during Christmas and we will catch up once better. Which has caused more upset.

Are we being unreasonable to want to stick together as a family? I also don't fancy spending Christmas alone. Surely we can just do the same celebrations a week later or so?

I'd let them go for a few hours! If you are poorly why let that mean everyone else has to cancel plans? The majority of the day will still be with you all.

If it’s just a day visit tomorrow I would send him off with healthy children and you chill at home for a few hours with the poorly one.

YANBU at all. I’m glad your DH agrees with you, too.

Even if two of you spend the day under a blanket on the sofa downing Lemsip, at least you’ll all be together and you won’t be alone looking after an ill child.

Sorry I forgot to mention - they live a few hours away, it would be a whole day thing.

I think YABU, especially if they've travelled or you don't see them often.

I would pack the healthy ones off on the understanding they might be delivering bugs and get some rest, enjoy eating what you fancy watching your choice of telly with poorly child . Get better and do the whole thing at New Year.

It's just one day and might be good to get the kids (who aren't poorly) out for a few hours of fun while you relax at home. I'd personally let them go and enjoy themselves while you enjoy the quiet.

So what? If your both ill you won’t be up to doing much so why shouldn’t the rest of the family go and see people?

My DH works abroad a lot so we do not get much quality time as a family, which is why we are both keen to have the family together during Christmas, even if that means it's lounging around watching films.

But totally understand both view points. I'll see what the children fancy doing and let them decide :-)

It's MIL, isn't it 😂

Nope. We wouldn't be spending Christmas apart, particularly not when one of us was ill.

It’s up to your DH and he has chosen to be with you for Christmas.

I think it’s lovely to be supported by your DH. Its a refreshing read. The other thing is that they could still risk passing on your virus. So better that they stay away for that reason. All of you try and enjoy yourselves together. Feel better soon x

This.

It's only for a few hours. Let everyone have some fun while you snuggle up with a film and a bit of quiet

It's only for a few hours. Let everyone have some fun while you snuggle up with a film and a bit of quiet

I think it’s a few hours away.

Is it covid OP?

it’s not “spending christmas alone”. Its doing different things on one day bc two of you are sick.