Been told they don’t want a present, yet they bought for us

[Giftgivingdilemma]

What to do in this situation?

Family member has bought us presents for Christmas (briefly spoken about in conversation weeks ago, along the lines of - I’ve finished Christmas shopping, I got all of your presents in the Black Friday sales)

They have now informed me not to bother with Christmas presents. From what I can gather they are upset and put out that I was unavailable to meet them for a coffee, no more context. They said something along the lines of ‘I’ve already told you not to bother anymore, don’t ignore me, we value presence over presents and clearly you aren’t up for that right now’.

No more context than that. I am seeing them over Christmas as they are extended family.

We bought their present before they said this and there are presents for their kids too. What do I do here? Do I give anyway and let them do what they wish with it, or respect that they don’t want anything. It feels like an awkward situation because I don’t want them to be upset or offended if they don’t receive anything but I have got a couple of texts which explicitly say not to. Input appreciated!

Give them anyway and explain you bought them before they sent that text and would still rather give the presents than not. It's then up to them if they wish to receive or not.

They sound the type to be a bit shirty either way tbh.

Give the presents, ingnore their weird huffing.

Thank you. I think I will, I’d feel bad if they didn’t get them. If they don’t want them they can donate them to a charity shop

They’re being passive aggressive because you were not able to meet for coffee. Don’t respond, give them y our gifts as planned and don’t bring it up.

I’ve already told you not to bother anymore, don’t ignore me, we value presence over presents and clearly you aren’t up for that right now’.

Is there a back story to "Don't ignore me"? Have they already given out at you about not being able to meet for a coffee?

"Don't be so silly. I wasn't available at the time you wanted to meet, as I explained, but I'd have been delighted to find an alternative mutually convenient time. We've already bought presents for you and the kids so we'll be bringing them to X house and look forward to seeing you there"

I'd give the pressies but I'd not bother going out my way to see them.

don’t ignore me, we value presence over presents and clearly you aren’t up for that right now

😳 WTH?!
maybe the response should be ‘fine, stuff you then’.
Why would someone suffer spending time with them? They sound awful.