Fuming with lying husband

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He went out with friends last night, only got back aroung 5:30 this morning which already annoyed me even though it's not the first time he has done this. Anyway, that's not even why I am angry. I noticed a bruise on this face this morning but let him sleep for a while. IT had definitely gotten darker by the time he got up, so safe to assume that this will be a proper shiner.
He claims that he must have bumped into something and that he wasn't in a fight, but I am very sure that this is a lie. I can tell that his hand is sore, but he also denies this.
I am absolutely fuming about all of this. We are supposed to drive up to my parents in the morning. They are not the biggest fans of DH and this will just give them more reason to dislike him. And I also absolutely hate being lied to! I am somewhat tempted to text one of his friends that he was out with but I don't even know if I'd get the truth then.
Right now I am seriously considering leaving him at home on his own and take the DCs to see their grandparents over the Christmas break, but I know that once I do this I will guilty.

The LTB brigade are probably out in force tonight having left their bastards and are getting bored and angry at the prospect of spending Christmas on their own with their cats as it’s their ex’s turn to have the kids for Christmas.

Get to the bottom of what happened and where he went, make it clear to him why it’s upset you and then get on with having a Merry Christmas.

No sweetheart, the LTB squad have LTB and now realise that we are worth so much more, deserve so much more, are happier, thinner and richer. So we actually want to support other women instead of dragging them down but telling them that they deserve better.

If you want to waste another Christmas with someone who makes you miserable, good on you. But I'm having the best Christmas I've had in 13 years.

How awful for children to grow up with a boozing, brawler for a dad.

No doubt if he’d shat himself too you would add faecal incontinent to your list of supposedly defining characteristics.

This 👏 👏 👏

And to be honest, I’d take being single with cats over being in a bad relationship any day! How sad that this poster thinks being with a shitty, “bastard” man is better than being single.

Look, he made a stupid mistake, it could happen to any one of us, anyone can hurt someone they love.

I don’t understand why you (or other posters) are so angry.

He went out with his friends, which as a grown adult he’s entitled to do.

He also has a bruise, which he’s said is from bumping into something.

You’ve chosen not to believe him which is your choice but you’re wanting to punish him for something that you simply assume.

If he has got into a fight then it’s obviously not been a bad one else you would know straight away.

Has he definitely been in a fight? Is it something he's done before? My partner fell one night and came home black and blue- he's never been in a fight in his life so I had no reason to disbelieve him but you'd know if it was likely. I don't think the staying out till 5:30 is the worst- at this time of year i've been that late home, getting something to eat and waiting in a taxi queue.

I think you need a long conversation

Don't take him! Why feel embarrassed and uncomfortable because of him? You deserve to have some time away from him and hopefully forget it until you get home. Out of sight out of mind. Tell your parents the whole truth and heed their advice, sounds like they already recognized the bs and want better for you.

Except the OP has said that he’s had issues with this sort of behaviour in the past. So, it’s not a “mistake”, it’s a pattern of behaviour.

He was in a fight. Didn’t start the situation but was the one who threw a punch.
We will definitely need a long conversation after today/ tomorrow but I don’t have the headspace for it now. I married an idiot.

Well, yes, who would want to live with that?