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Wrapping paper

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Cw112 · 22/12/2023 20:43

This is a silly one really.

So every year I buy the wrapping paper for all presents leaving our house. Get the cards to match so it all looks nice under the tree. Generally I'm responsible for presents for my side and dh is responsible for his side but I always buy enough wrapping paper to do everything.

Today dh came home from tesco with 3 rolls of wrapping paper without being asked as id forgotten. (He is generally really good like that and it was awkward for me to do the tesco shop with ds (1) at this time of year when it's so busy.) He came in and said "I got some wrapping paper today and showed me.

I used the wrapping paper today to wrap all of ds presents plus my presents for my family and some of his family. Then the rolls ran out (it was a pack of 3 small rolls). Dh is PISSED that I used the wrapping paper he bought and I realised that he bought it for just the things he needed to wrap. I apologised and explained I thought it was for communal use because of the way he mentioned it after the shop and he's now in a huff because he can't wrap his things tonight even though I've offered to go tomorrow and get more. He's said he wants to go and pick out what he likes.

Aibu to feel miffed that he firstly didn't get enough to just do everything and secondly that he is making such a big deal over it and refusing to let me correct it?

We've been on a bit of a short fuse with each other since ds started nursery and I started back to work as we're both sleep deprived and have a new cold every fortnight.

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sunights · 22/12/2023 20:58

Let him buy more tomorrow.
And don't pander to his huff.
His only reasonable grounds for annoyance are that he didn't buy enough for both of you.
And he can sort that in the morning.

mottytotty · 22/12/2023 21:00

YANBU. So all those years he used the ones you bought and now he is greedy about the ones he bought?

Is he usually this selfish?

Please don’t buy more, let him buy more.

OldTinHat · 22/12/2023 21:02

And this is why I'm twice divorced and have been single for about 10yrs...!

Just bob out and buy some more paper. What's the big deal?

Rudolphtherednoseddog · 22/12/2023 21:03

I just can’t imagine being possessive over wrapping paper of all things. I can understand how he didn’t buy enough because it’s hard to judge quantities needed, I can understand being frustrated by being unable to wrap when he wants to, I can almost understand wanting to choose his own paper (though really it’s just wrapping paper, it doesn’t matter what design it is) but I don’t think that justifies taking his annoyance out on you. Especially when it sounds like you were in any case wrapping his stuff too, and even more so the stuff for your joint child! Why is all that solely your job to do with “your” paper which you have to procure?

Next year if it were me I’d buy about two dozen rolls at the end of November and present them to him with fanfare, just to make a point!

If your DH has not already apologised and is actually genuinely angry and can’t see the ridiculousness of the situation then you have a bigger problem than paper.

Soubriquet · 22/12/2023 21:04

It’s sodding wrapping paper. Easily replaced

FedUpMumof10YO · 22/12/2023 21:06

It's a bit late to be wrapping. He should have done it before now.

educatingrati · 22/12/2023 22:38

FedUpMumof10YO · 22/12/2023 21:06

It's a bit late to be wrapping. He should have done it before now.

Snort! I haven't wrapped any thing yet!

Floatlikeafeather2 · 22/12/2023 22:46

FedUpMumof10YO · 22/12/2023 21:06

It's a bit late to be wrapping. He should have done it before now.

My goodness! I didn't realise there was a rule about this. When does it have to be done by, so I know for next year?

tomatoontoast · 22/12/2023 22:48

FedUpMumof10YO · 22/12/2023 21:06

It's a bit late to be wrapping. He should have done it before now.

Says who?

GingersOwner26 · 22/12/2023 23:03

FedUpMumof10YO · 22/12/2023 21:06

It's a bit late to be wrapping. He should have done it before now.

Trust me, I once saw my uncle wrapping his wife’s presents about 5pm on Christmas Day. This dude is nothing in comparison.

cardibach · 22/12/2023 23:16

FedUpMumof10YO · 22/12/2023 21:06

It's a bit late to be wrapping. He should have done it before now.

I wrapped mine today and was proud of myself for being so organised. As long as they are done by bedtime on Christmas Eve it’s soon enough.

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