25 years together and every Christmas/birthday my dh never knows what to buy me. I almost always ask to go out for a meal for my birthday, I would be happy with just that, but it never happens. For my 40th I bought myself a ring I wanted (after my birthday). This year I just got chocolate.
I either have to give him a list (which I'm not adverse to), or the last few years I've just bought stuff myself and given it to him to wrap up. It's so boring though, I never get even one surprise present. If i don't do this I'll get nothing and a 'you didn't tell me what you wanted' and 'I don't know what to get'. Even when I do tell him he forgets. One year the only thing I asked him to specifically get was a galaxy selection box, which I didn't get as he left it too late. So it's not like I expect to be spoilt with ££££ gifts or anything.
Is it unreasonable of me to want him to put some thought into just one bloody present by himself?
He was sulking recently because his birthday was boring. Mine is also boring every year as he never makes any effort so he reaped what he sowed this year! Yet here we are Christmas a few weeks later and he's just gone shopping as I asked if he'd actually bothered to buy me anything himself this year. Which obviously he hasn't. It's just the lack of thought and effort that gets to me.