To not want to go, or am I selfish/self-centred?

[dontwanttogooo]

I'm 23, for context. Every year our family go out for a Christmas meal with a family friend's family. I'm not particularly close with the family friend or their family, but my parents say I'm being self-centred and miserable if I don't go. The family friend has been kind to me at times, but also quite judgemental of me (my parents tells me what they say).

I've recently had to start on a restrictive diet due to a health diagnosis (don't want to go into detail), and nothing at the restaurant we are going to is suitable for me to eat apart from a bowl of chips (which I'm already skeptical of as they have seasoning I don't trust). The family friend doesn't seem to believe me about the diagnosis and is dismissive about it, despite knowing the symptoms I experience and the trips to the doctors/hospital I've had.

AIBU to not want to go for the meal this year? My Dad is annoyed with me that I don't want to go, as he says I could just sit there with a drink and eat when I get home. We could have easily booked another restaurant that was suitable for everyone (literally every other restaurant I've been to has had at least one suitable meal option for me). When we've been with meals with this family before we've had to go to certain restaurants as one of them is quite fussy, so it's not like we're not flexible and accommodating to their needs.

I would decline the invite and tell your parents not to pass on unkind comments from their friend in future.

Do you live with your parents? If so, perhaps tell them you've got plans already (although I don't see why you should have to have a reason for not going out with them - but anything for a quiet life at Christmas). If you don't live with them, just say you're not going, and that's the end of it. You don't like this person (and I don't blame you. Stick to your guns.

Tell your dad you’ll apply go to a different restaurant

Absolutely YANBU. Your parents and your parents' friends both sound pretty awful to be honest.

Is this on Christmas Day? Honestly, I'd rather stay at home than do that. Do you live at home? Could you spend that time with a friend?

"I'm 23, for context. Every year our family go out for a Christmas meal with a family friend's family. I'm not particularly close with the family friend or their family, but my parents say I'm being self-centred and miserable if I don't go."

What is wrong with being self-centred at times? Not going where you don't want to go is not being "miserable", it's "sensible" - you'd be more miserable if you were there and didn't want to be!

Given the thread title I was at YANBU by the 5th and 6th words "every year". I was 110% convinced at "not particularly close" and the rest is just the final nails in the coffin.

Do something else. Anything else!