To just give vouchers to the staff who work with my toddler?

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My toddler goes to a very small nursery and she absolutely loves it. They are so good to her and I can tell how kind and sweet they are. There are 3 nursery workers who work with her. There isn't a key worker system (not in the uk) but they all seem to work with my toddler. I got them a Zara voucher each. Then I remembered that I forgot to get the owner/manager anything. She too is lovely but I rarely see her and think she oversees things rather than works with the toddlers. I got her a box of chocolates. Is it weird I didn't get her vouchers too? I'm just thinking that the ladies who work with my child do such long hours, probably on quite low pay, and they always have a smile on their faces and show such warmth. No I feel bad for excluding the owner! I still have time to bulk her gift out a bit.

I think that's totally fine - we also used to do the same. The owner/manager probably earns more than the nursery staff.

OK thanks, I'm going now!

Yeah, that's fine. You rarely see her and she doesn't work with your child - plus, if she owns/manages the place, she's likely on a much better salary than the childcare workers.

You’re very kind to get them anything at all.

But yes, I think it’s acceptable to get the boss a ‘lesser’ present than the lower-paid workers.

You got them a voucher each! This makes me think my DH idea to get a box of biscuits to be shared by all the staff was kind of cheap...do we look really cheap and unappreciative?

I wanted to get each of the staff a present but DH said I was going overboard.

That is fine. And vouchers are good as it means they can get something they want. I just used vouchers I was given last year to pay for most of my Christmas dinner, they were vouchers where you can choose where to spend them which Is great as things are very tight right now.

I was going to get them a box of chocs each. The shop with the chocs was rammed and I thought, you know what, I've just been paid a bonus in work and they looked v tired this morning but still put a smile on. I don't think chocolates are unappreciative at all but I saw that Zara was quiet and just went for it. I realised afterwards my husband would prob think I'm mad!