Not sending Christmas cards to close family

[Ameliel]

I've decided to not send Christmas cards this year, mainly to cut some of the costs but also because I'm very busy and it is another added stress in my hectic life that I thought I could avoid.

I'm however making an exception with the older generation of family and friends who always send me a card, without fail, every year. I have send cards, with personalised greetings and messages, to all of these dear people, because I would not want to upset them. These few people I have sent cards include my two aunties and cousin.
But vast majority of my acquaintances do not send cards or would not be terribly upset if they did not receive one from me, so I have decided to let this tradition go.

As part of this, for the first time ever, i have not sent cards to my mum, dad and sisters ( I live in different county to them), and my DH says I'm being a bit mean and U. But they have never sent me Christmas cards, it has always been one way only. My mum is part of a religious group that does not celebrate Christmas, she feels sending any greetings or doing anything remotely Christmassy is bad. She never buys any presents for my children either, not that we expect it.
My dad is not religious but never sends cards either, he is just a bit useless in everything like that. (My parents have divorced and both live alone). He also never bothers with any gifts for his grandchildren, never remembers anyone's birthdays or makes any effort with anything like that. He does however celebrate Xmas, he has Xmas tree and decorations, all the foods etc.
My sisters also never send cards. I think they feel it is not something they want to do, for whatever reason, and that's fine. But after years of sending cards and sometimes gifts to my family, and never receiving any in return, I decided they were not part of my "exception" group of people I described earlier. AIBU? My Dh feels I should keep sending cards "to be nice", just because they are close family, but I feel that if they appreciated this gesture then surely they would reciprocate? Am I unreasonable?

I’ve let it go this year except for ancient relatives who it means a lot to (3 aunts).

Have sent e-cards and made a donation to charity. No regrets and have also has a tiny amount of cards delivered. The time has passed.

I don’t send any at all, never have.

One year I decided not to send cards unless I received one, I was very surprised at how many I didn’t get. This year I’ve only sent one, to an elderly relative that always sends me one. That’s it, one.

I only give one to my mum.
(If OH wants to give his dad one then that's up to him to sort out, not me).

YANBU. I have stopped doing cards. I just feel they're a pointless waste of time when I have enough to do already and with the postal service like it is, we aren't even getting stuff we've ordered let alone cards.

I'm not being a scrooge, I just don't see the point of sending a card that simply says happy Christmas, love X. They end up in the bin 2 weeks later anyway. If I am very close to someone, a card feels really formal and weird as I'd be ringing/texting them anyway to say happy Christmas and if its someone I'm not close to at all then I don't see how a card once a year is representative of "care" when I don't even speak to them at any other point during the year anyway! They are from a time when digital communication didnt exist so I feel they aren't really relevant any more.

I don't send cards to anyone. We get very few.

I especially don't see the point in sending a card to someone you see regularly and are going to be with over Christmas.