DH is being dreadful, verbally abusive and unpleasant to be around. We are supposed to visit his family on Christmas Day. Let’s just say the apple does not fall far from the tree. Much older SIL lives at home pushing 50 and has her nose in everyone’s business. I am close to leaving DH, he spoke to SIL and she inappropriately stirred the issue with DDs who I was desperately trying to protect.
Dreading being stuck on the M4 with foul DH. The normal pattern is on arrival DC will be plied with endless sweets (If I try to keep the quantities reasonable or after food I will be ignored or snapped at) and then their sugar fueled behavior will be commented on, then the comments about my parenting failure will start. DH will be in the pub and explode on returning, but apparently that is fine. I don‘t drive, so will be stuck as it is a rural area.
Anyway… DH was foul tonight and I cannot face it. I said I don’t want to go. He retaliated by threatening to cancel various things that will upset DC.
AIBU to fake an illness on the morning we are due to travel? I hate the idea of doing this, as it may mean we all don’t go. On the other hand I cannot face going and having to deal with more abuse in the car, then nasty games at the other end. I feel like I am becoming as bad as them (but in a different way), but got here by being pushed past breaking point. If the stirring with DDs had not happened I would be working hard to protect some sort of relationship, but they pushed it to a place that was not appropriate for the DC.