To want to be a terrible present giver?

[Shewhobecamethesun]

It’s just 4 days to go until the shit present thread of 2023 appears on here, and part of me can’t help but feel a little envious of the shit present givers. The MILs, the SILs, random aunts and elderly grans (always the women it seems, but that’s for another thread) handing out paper napkins, personalised pens with the wrongs names, the pjs in the wrong size (usually about 2 sizes too big or too small), the Baylis and Harding gift sets. How freeing it must be to not have to spend hours searching for the perfect gift, then spend days anxiously worrying if you’ve got it right.
I imagine these woman are also the ones who grow up to wear purple coats with their red hats, and are done with trying to please other people (especially the ones that only bother to acknowledge their existence once a year!).

So, AIBU for wanting to grow up and be that rubbish present giver? Just for the fun of it.

You can't do it as for everyone who hates an oversized shirt , someone else will find it more comfy and someone else will be delighted to receive one too small as it better reflects their self image

I have a colleague he who buys all next year’s Christmas (and birthday) presents in sales on Dec 26th.

I asked, “how will you know what everyone will want a year from now?”
He said, “They’ll get what they’re given”.

Freeing indeed.

I probably already am one of those people! At least for my sister as she never tells me anything she wants (even when directly asked). We still feel obligated to get each other gifts but not close enough at all to have any clue whatsoever about what the other person likes.

A previous year she actually did make a suggestion and I went out of my way to get it for her, spending way over the usual budget to do so. I know for a fact that she has never once used that present.

I've tried really hard this year based on the one thing I've seen recurring on her Facebook feed. It'll probably still be wrong. If it is, next year I really will just go with something completely random. It's probably got a better chance of being right than my carefully thought about gifts.

I imagine these woman are also the ones who grow up to wear purple coats with their red hats, and are done with trying to please other people (especially the ones that only bother to acknowledge their existence once a year!).

I'm one of the purple-coat-red-hat brigade - coven! - and I love to spend hours searching for the perfect gift. But only for those worth spending the hours on. As for the rest, yes, I'm done with trying to please people I don't care about.